Berry and Cakes Conversations - Lost in Translation

I miss putting up these kinds of posts! Remember how I used to share some of the funny conversations Cakes and I used to have (Car, Kitchen, Foot Massages, Training)? I went down memory lane last week and read some posts from a couple of years ago, and they made me smile inwardly. Anyways, the main reasons why we were lost in translation in our early days was the whole UK versus US English. 

Till Snoring Do Us Part

Cakes and I have been married now for over three years. In these three short years, we've gotten to know each other better. It ranges from different things like the way each person feels about privacy (no comment on that), to what kind of foods we like, to much deeper stuff that I can't share on here. But one thing I can talk about is the fact that we both snore!

30 and Unmarried - Part 2

As I was saying in my previous post, my family members were very worried about me because I was quickly approaching 30, unmarried, and didn't seem to care. And truthfully, I really didn't care that much. I knew I would get married eventually, but I wasn't on a timetable. Yeah, it probably helped that there were different guys along the way, so I was preoccupied anyways *hides face.* But the bottom line is that I wasn't sitting somewhere, wallowing and waiting for my life to start, because I did have a life!

30 and Unmarried - Part 1

I got the idea of this post from a tweet that Sugabelly posted last week.

Wondering if there are any "testimonies" from Nigerian women 27 and above who didn't settle and found love with a man with 95% of their reqs

— Sugabelly (@sugabelly) January 18, 2017

Being a Nigerian/African woman typically means that by the time you're done with your first degree, family members are eagerly awaiting your wedding announcement. You're probably between 23 and 25 years old at the time, and woe betide you if there's no eligible suitor hanging around.

BERRY VLOG - On Soulmates

Not too long ago, my sister tagged me in a post and it had to do with soulmates. Over the years, I've changed my thought process on whether soulmates are real or not. But while doing quick "research" during the filming of this vlog, I got totally stumped!

BERRY WRITES - A Quick Love Story

BERRY WRITES is a weekly feature where I will share my thoughts on different topics culled from my 300 Writing Prompts journal. You can look forward to them every Tuesday, and you're very welcome to tell me your experiences and thoughts as well.

BERRY VLOG - My First Heartbreak

Young love... I remember what it felt like to be young and "in love" so many moons ago. Back then, I was so sure about love being like a fairy tale, no thanks to Disney. DISCLAIMER - I LOVE DISNEY!!! Anyways, during our weekend trip with just the girls, we gisted and laughed about all our shenanigans from way back when. My cousin reminded me about this guy who I could just not get over, for absolutely no reason! I mean, we dated for just a month, and yet years later, I would still be crying over him - I told you, MAKES NO SENSE! Watch as I gist a little bit about it in my latest vlog.

BERRY WRITES - The Best Thing About Being Partnered

I'm introducing a new segment on the blog, called BERRY WRITES. I'm sure I've mentioned more than a few times that even though I have been blogging for a few years, I don't consider myself to be a writer. It doesn't make sense, but I'm weird like that. Even when I get compliments about this blog and other pieces I've written (check out some of them here), I usually reply with very modest gratitude. In one of my recent vlogs, someone asked me if I'd consider writing a book and even though I'm still very skeptical that anyone would want to read a book by me, I am challenging myself to write more.

I got this journal a month ago with the express intention of writing everyday for 300 days. Today was the first time I wrote in it, and I intend to share some of my thoughts in this journal with you. This will be a weekly feature - on Tuesdays - and you're welcome to add your own thoughts in the comments every week :)

Why You Need Alone Time in your Relationship

Hey there!

As you all know, Cakes and I were apart for almost two months recently. His bakery still runs in Lagos, Nigeria and he went to go and check on things over there. Like I have mentioned before, he will be going back and forth between Lagos and Atlanta. For now, he's here until December so if you're in Atlanta, call 404-993-3770 to order your cakes and small chops.

Anyways, while he was away, I kept getting questions and messages that insinuated that I was probably miserable because he wasn't with me. Erm... not quite.

How to Be Single

Hi everyone,

Cakes and I went on an impromptu date a few weeks ago, and the 2 movie options were Deadpool and How to Be Single. I feel like most times we go to the movies, we end up watching an action film, so I really wanted to watch a chick flick. When I was single (pun intended), I mostly watched Chick Flicks, Rom-Coms, and ALWAYS Superhero movies. In this instance though, I wanted to go for something light and funny, so How to Be Single was the choice. It wasn't a bad movie - there was laughter in some scenes. However, I didn't know it was rated R - there was A LOT of random hooking up (sex o) and F-bombs everywhere. That aside. it made me think about my life before I met Cakes.

The Moment Cakes left the Friend-Zone

Cakes and I met in February or March of 2012, near the start of my NYSC year. I've told the story a few times here about how we met, but the short version is - we met at church. The longer version is the pastor said we should say hello to 5 new people, and Cakes was the first person I said hello to, I think. Well, he appeared in front of me from nowhere and introduced himself.

Even though we didn't speak again for a week afterwards, I thought he was cute and sent him a text message. He called and I think we've spoken almost everyday since then. Now, I wasn't particularly looking for a boyfriend (very looooooooooong story), so we became friends. There was an attraction, yes, but I wasn't in that head space of having a boyfriend. Before I agreed to be his girlfriend much later that year, I hadn't had an official boyfriend for 6 years! Not that there were no guys in between - there were... (maybe too many) - but nobody made it to relationship status. I was determined that my next boyfriend would be my final boyfriend.

Anyways, after a couple of months of getting to know him better, hanging out, talking on the phone, he mentioned that he had a wedding a couple of hours away. He was going as a guest and also the wedding cake designer, and he asked me to come along. I wasn't busy that weekend and agreed to go with him and his friends. The mini road trip was nice, we got to the wedding, had fun and on the drive home, he sat in the backseat with me.

Something clicked in my head and I rested my head on his shoulder (or maybe chest) and in an instant, I thought to myself, "Hmm. I think I can see him as my boyfriend." Nothing extraordinary happened, but that moment was a game changer for me.

The one photo from that day.

It still took some time for all of me to get to the point where I could agree to be his girlfriend, but I can say without a doubt, that singular moment when I rested on him was the start of #BerryandCakes.

Happy Valentine's Day!

VLOG: Husband Tag featuring Cakes

Valentine's weekend is upon us and I thought it would be a special treat to post my first vlog that features Cakes!!!

We did the Husband Tag, where I asked him some questions and it was a fun video to shoot. I hope you enjoy it and get to know a little more about Berry and Cakes!

Please Subscribe to my channel; Like and Share the video too :)

P.S. There's a BIG announcement coming up on Monday!!!

REVIEW - R.S.V.P.

Hiya!

Today I'm reviewing R.S.V.P. restaurant, right here in Lagos. We celebrated Valentine's Day early, since Cakes is too busy on Valentine's Day making sure that lots of cake orders are delivered. Call 08094263869 to order your cakes and cupcakes, by the way. I will probably end up doing like last year and getting pizza for myself as I'll be home alone. Anyways, our early Valentine was sponsored by Ofadaa.com and you can check out their directory and reviews of restaurants in Lagos and other cities across Nigeria.

Berry and Cakes' Early Valentine's at R.S.V.P.

Happy Valentine's Day!!!!

Okay, I know I'm early but since Cakes' business (owning a bakery) means he's extremely busy on Valentine's Day, we never get to have a proper celebration. This year though, courtesy of Ofadaa.Com, we were able to get an early start. For our anniversary, we went to Sky Restaurant in Eko Hotels and Suites. This time around, instead of asking friends and breaking my head about where to go, I decided to check on Ofadaa's website. We eventually decided to go to RSVP.

25 Valentine's Day Blog Post Ideas

Hey everyone,

This post is mainly for Bloggers. As we all know, it's the month of Love and Valentine's Day is quickly approaching. If you haven't started writing your blog posts around the period of love, here are 20 Blog Post Ideas that you can use. I've used some of them before.

REVIEW - Sky Restaurant at Eko Hotels and Suites

Hiya!!!

How was everyone's weekend? I hope you had fun, rested, relaxed, or did whatever you wanted to do. Cakes and I had guests over on Saturday - they were originally supposed to come at 2 and ended up coming at 5. As in, I was too hungry to wait for them so I started eating before they came :p Anyways, we had a nice time hosting and I wish I did more of it last year. Ah well. We also shot a video (yes, me and Cakes so stay tuned for it in a week or two).

You already know that for our Anniversary Date, I wanted Cakes and I to go somewhere fancy. That somewhere fancy happened to be Sky Lounge at Eko Hotels and Suites. Like I mentioned, I'd been there several times and it was Cakes' first time. This is the review I promised back then. Erm, if you're hungry go and eat first, then come back and read.

Source - Afriscover

Berry Good Marriage/Relationship Advice

Hello friends,

As you all know, I consider myself to be very wise and like dishing out advice to those in need and those who don't care. I've told you why using pet names is bad for you, why you shouldn't have "our song," etc. Today I'm here to tell you why you shouldn't reprimand your significant other for spending money and shopping. 

RANDOM ALERT: Matching Underwear

Hello Boys n Girls!

I've been thinking about this for a while - I know, I know... why am I spending more than a second wondering about matching underwear? Well, because I'm me and that's what I do.

So matching underwear... you know how you see Victoria's Secret and Fredericks of Hollywood and all those ads? All the chicks are ALWAYS wearing matching bras and panties - and sometimes garters and all kinds of frilly things. They all look very nice and attractive and all of that, but my question is...

I have a new crush!!!!

So I have a confession to make. 

I have a new crush. This is not like my perpetual crush on Flavour's voice or Phyno. This one hit me like a ton of bricks! As in, breath left my body for a hot minute when I saw his photo. Should I reveal his identity? Okay. His name is...

Berry Dakara on Radio TODAY!!!

Hello dahlings!

So I'm here to announce that yours truly shall be on radio this afternoon/evening. It's the August Meeting with Uwanma show on Inspiration FM 92.3. The show starts at 5:00pm (West African Time) so please make sure you tune in.

Uwanma is a fun personality and I started listening to her either late last year or early this year. And then we followed each other on Instagram, and the way we comment on each other's posts, someone would think that we've been friends for a while... and we haven't even met!

Anyways, the show's topic is usually centered on Dating and Relationships. Today's particular topic is "What Do Women Want in Mr. Right?"

It should be an interesting show, innit? It's interactive, so please please please listen and call in to the show. If you're in Lagos, it's 92.3. If you're outside Lagos, listen by clicking here or try one of them radio apps.

And just for fun if you can't call in, why don't you tell me in the comments what you're looking (or looked) for in a partner?