February 28, 2014

Flashback Friday - 1995 Music

Woohoo! Weekend's here again. I haven't decided if I'll be out and about or sitting at home. I had a health scare at the beginning of the week, so I might be forced to stay home all day Saturday. I do want to go to LPM on Sunday though. I just know there's some necklace or top or skirt or anything that's waiting for me to come and purchase her.

Regardless of whether I stay home or not, my post yesterday reminded me about how when I was younger, people said I looked like Patra. I'm not sure how. Back then, I really wasn't happy about that comparison. I was in SU (Scripture Union) and being compared to Patra made me feel bad. But truth is, I enjoyed her music. And so I shall start off my flashback with her :)

DISCLAIMER: I didn't watch her videos as a child, so I'm really not familiar with them and I'm just posting without watching them. Therefore  if you are offended by any video, don't blame me. But they can't be as raunchy as Rihanna or Nicki Minaj, right?

P.S. All the videos/songs are from 1995. Mehnnnnnnnnnnn, 1995. I was 13 years old going to SS2 from SS1. I had had my first boyfriend (rolls eyes... saw him at my sister's traditional wedding 3 years ago, and he boldly asked me to have an affair with him). I was kissed at 13, but can't remember if it was in '95 or '96.

February 27, 2014

Guess what I want to do now...

No, it's not plastic surgery to give me a permanent Joker smile... It's hair related.

Well, it's either of 3 things or a combination of all of them if I can. Make that 4 things.

February 24, 2014

Stage Fright!!!

Hey hey hey!

How are ya? How was your weekend? Mine was jam-packed! And I can tell you that I spent at least 2 hours in traffic. I don't understand why there should be a huge traffic jam on a Saturday afternoon or night in Lekki - especially Oando/Jakande roundabouts. It's so infuriating that I'm thisclose to staying home every weekend from now on - unless Cakes is driving.

On Friday afternoon, our dance/drama ministry leader asked if I could help out with a very short skit at church for yesterday's service. I was available, and agreed. It was a short skit with 2 others from the team. We had a cafe setting, and I was the waitress - the purpose of the skit was to let the church know about the Cafe Rouge Ministry in my church. You can read about them here.

BUT about 45 minutes before we had to get on stage, I started feeling the familiar churning in my stomach, my heart beat began to pick up pace, and I knew that I didn't want to participate in the skit anymore. I tried to rehearse my lines, and I kept making mistakes. I was having a mini panic attack. When I mentioned it to our leader and the other actors, 2 of them laughed at me, thinking I was joking. They said that I'm such a good actress and there's no way I can have stage fright. I explained that whenever I have to get on stage, I feel literally sick to my stomach and freak out inwardly... as soon as I step on stage, it's a completely different story... and then when I get off, I'm thanking God it's over.

Yesterday, I prayed, "God, this skit is for you. You have a message you want to get out. I am forgetting my lines. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE speak for me, because I'm afraid I'll mess everything up." You would think the prayer would calm me down, but I was still panicking backstage. And then, I got on stage and it was an out-of-body experience. It's like I was watching myself. The lines came out so smoothly. I wasn't trying to remember lines - they just came out of my mouth. I remember thinking "Wow, God is the one talking o," while I was on stage. After the skit was done, I was so relieved and went back to my seat. When the service was over, different people came up to congratulate me on a job well done. Little did they know how nervous I was beforehand.

Unfortunately, I don't have a video of the skit yet, but you can watch this scene from a play we did last year, where I played King Herod's wife. Believe me, I wanted to throw up before going on stage.


Even though I get stage fright, I have to say that I do enjoy acting a lot :)

Have a nice week.

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February 18, 2014

First Date Deal breakers

Hey hey,

So I just got off Verastic's blog, and she and her fiance have been arguing about whether it's acceptable to use Groupon/Living Social/Dealdey coupons on a first date. Her fiance says it's fine if the price of the deal is over a particular amount. She says 'Hell to the NAW. Coupons can be used later as the relationship progresses, NOT on the first date.' I'm inclined to agree with her fiance, because I've used coupons in the past, and I don't see a big deal about it. However, it should be a deal that's worth a reasonable amount.

The post got me thinking about deal-breakers for First Dates. And it made me recall one particularly bad first date I had shortly before I met Cakes. Here are some of the reasons why that date was a deal-breaker for me...

February 17, 2014

Exes at weddings... Yay or Nay?

So I went to a wedding once, and we were all having fun - the couple looked great, the music was good, the food was better... and then at one point, I turned around in my seat, and who did I see? The bride's ex-boyfriend! Not only was he her ex-boyfriend, he was her JERK of an ex-boyfriend too. And I couldn't help but wonder why in the heck he was there. From what I know, it wasn't a good breakup, so she couldn't have invited him. I did see the groom hanging around their table, so maybe they know each other? But would he have felt comfy enough to invite his bride's ex? I dunno. I just thought it was weird.

Cakes and I agreed to not have exes at our wedding. Well, I agreed reluctantly, because I don't have hard feelings towards a couple of my exes. Cakes doesn't either, but he's from the school of thought that doesn't think you can be friends with your ex (I think you can, and I AM). I think that there are a few criteria that must be met before you should put your ex on your wedding guest list...


  1. It was NOT a bad break-up. Nobody cheated on anybody, nobody was abusive or neglectful or disrespectful or hated anyone's friends and/or family. It should have been a clean break-up. Like maybe distance, or you just weren't compatible...
  2. You are SIMPLY friends, and there is absolutely no wishing or hoping or thinking or praying that you'll get back together.
  3. Your betrothed is OKAY with your ex attending the wedding. And if your ex is dating someone new (or has gotten married/engaged), then their new person has to be okay with it too.


DO NOT invite THIS ex

What do you think? Exes at weddings are a GO or a NO?

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February 14, 2014

Happy Valentine's Day

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!

It's just a little after 7am, and I've been up for 2 hours because I had to help Cakes with a couple of Valentine's Day deliveries. But before we made the first delivery, he "surprised" me with half a dozen roses and a cute card! Surprise in quotes, because I'm just too smart and I figured out that he ordered roses for me while ordering for his clients. Okay, it was easy to figure it out because I knew how many were ordered for the customers, and his cousin told me they decided to order 6 roses at the last minute.

February 11, 2014

Going under the knife...

Hey pretty people!

How are ya? I hope you had a lovely weekend. I most certainly did! From our date night on friday, staying home all day with nothing to do on Saturday, and spending some much needed quality time in God's presence... it was indeed, pretty good.

So I was at church on Sunday and heading to my seat, when one of my friends stopped me and said, "Berry you're always boning! Put a smile on your face! Everywhere you go, all the time, boning!" Of course that made me frown some more, but I remembered when someone told Cakes that she was surprised I said hi to her one Sunday and smiled at her. Do you also remember when I blogged that an usher told him someone said I was a snob?

Maybe I really just don't smile at all? Apart from being shy, a lot of times I'm so focused on where I'm going to (my seat, looking for Cakes, looking for cake), that it's the only thing on my mind, and I barely notice anything/anyone else. I usually have to be distracted to see what's happening around me. If I zero in on someone to say hi, usually for the next 5 minutes, my mind is focused on saying hello to everyone I see.

Anyways the point of this post is to bemoan and lament that I don't have a smiling face!!!! It's not fair :( I dunno how to remedy it. I can't possibly walk around with a smile plastered on my face (CONSCIENCE asks, WHY NOT?). So the next best thing is... Plastic Surgery!!!

Oui. I would have the surgeon turn up the sides of my mouth so that it looks like I'm always smiling. See examples below.

Source
Great idea, right?

:D I'm smiling already :D

February 8, 2014

Date Night!

Here's the thing with Nigeria - you tend to do the same things over and over and over again. Someone like me gets bored and likes to switch things up. That's why I go to watch stage plays at Terra Kulture, enjoy different cuisine like Indian, Thai, etc (I had really nice sushi the other day), and get married on beaches. :p

Anyways, I was browsing on Facebook the other day and saw this flyer


I was immediately intrigued, because the few times I've gone to events at A White Space, I've had lots of fun. I decided to surprise Cakes with a date at the February 7th event - Dinner and a Movie. The movie that was supposed to be shown, Before Sunrise, ended up having technical difficulties, so we ended up watching 'Moonrise Kindgom.' The food and dessert was superb! I have to find out who cooked cos they did a great job. Anyways, here are some pics for you :)

February 5, 2014

On Pet Names and why they're bad for you...

Hey y'all,

Did y'all have a purty weekend? I did - will tell you about it in another post.

So you know my mind likes buzzing and all these random things enter my mind, or I remember some of my theories and have to share. Now is one of those times, so grab a crayon, cardboard, write it down and paste it on your office desk because that's where you spend the most time.

So pet names. You know how you're all giddy and seeing everything through rose-colored glasses, and you just know that he/she is the one! So you call him/her any of the following...

BABY
BABE
DARLING
LOVE
SWEETHEART
PUMPKIN
HONEY
SUGAR

These bring a smile to your face, right? Of course they do, because you haven't learned why pet names are bad for you. Let's address the Top 3 reasons, shall we?

February 3, 2014

Weekend Snapz

Hello beautiful ladies and handsome gentlemen :)

How was your weekend? What'd you do? Who'd you see? Where'd you go? What'd you eat?

Well, on Saturday morning, I had to wake up brighter and earlier than I'd prefer since it was the weekend, because Cakes had made a cake for his friend's wedding and we were attending. So I woke up, got dressed, and Cakes and his cousins and I piled into the car and went off to the mainland.

We got there, set up the cake, and ran off to Mr. Biggs for breakfast (it was yucky. Why weren't there fresh donuts at 9am?!?!). Then we went back to set up the cupcake table, and I found out that frosting cupcakes is NOT my forte and I shan't be quitting my day job. Shortly after, the reception started. We had a pretty good time. There was food and lots of drinks!

Anyways, just thought to share some pictures.






Have a lovely and pretty week!

Kisses!

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