March 22, 2019

Berry Lovely Links

Hello darln's!

I'm really sorry about my impromptu break from blogging this week, but I needed the time off. I've had quite a bit on my mind and thinking about my life and what route I want things to go. There might be some changes soon - I'll let you know though. I hope you had a pretty week and look forward to a restful weekend. I've found myself missing certain elements of Nigeria - my friends there, food, and having my own place. But mostly, small chops is what I miss :( And shawarma. Ah well. I hope you enjoy these six links from around the interwebs.

March 15, 2019

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No long note today. Just thank God it's Friday. March seems to be flying just like February did. I'm in the middle of a very interesting book, after having just finished one earlier this week. I might finish 4 books this month as well - and I wonder why my Youtube channel is not moving (shakes head). Anyway, enjoy the links I have for you today. Number 4 is a VERY VERY good one!

March 13, 2019

5 Great Podcasts You Should Subscribe To

Hey there!

It's Hump Day Wednesday and I've been meaning to share my favorite podcasts that I'm subscribed to and listen to regularly. I enjoy listening to podcasts on my drive to and from work, as they provide me with information, inspiration and sometimes just plain old entertainment. I am listing only 5 right now, but I have a larger number of podcasts I am currently subscribed to, and will share those in later posts.

March 11, 2019

Two Affirmations to Help You Gain More Confidence and be Kind to Yourself

Hi everyone,

I hope you had a splendid weekend. Mine was not too bad. I could and should have been more productive but instead took a lot of time to rest. I wish I had balanced the R&R with more productivity, but that's alright. I did accomplish two or three things, so I wasn't a complete bum - and this is what leads me to share my post today. Recognizing and acknowledging the little things to help you increase your confidence.

March 8, 2019

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I've had such a hard week! I thought last week was bad, this one came with even more challenges. I posted on my Instagram Stories yesterday that some seasons, it just seems like it's one thing after another - and you actually get so tired that you don't even have the energy to care. LOL. That's me right now. Like WHATEVER! Keep throwing the arrows, I can't kill myself. With that being said, how about some fun links for ya?

March 4, 2019

Life Lately: February 2019

Can we all breathe a sigh of relief for the end of the whirlwind month of February? It was like February started and finished in 3 days! I for one, am happy it's gone and I hope March slows things down a little bit. It doesn't seem like it will though, because it's already the 4th and March just started yesterday! What gives?! Anyways, here's my life update for February. I hope you share yours with me in the comments.

March 1, 2019

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It's Friiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiday!!!!

Listen, I had the most Mondayest Thursday yesterday. In fact, I feel like I've had 5 Mondays in a row, and I can't thank God enough that it's weekend! I really need a break. I need some Me Time. I need to regroup. I need to reorient my mind and do some mental self-care. I need to look over my goals and really prioritize what's important to me and what I can let go of. I need to do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING for 2 days - no cleaning, no chores, no work, no blogging, no screen time, etc. *Phew* I'm glad I got that out. Have you ever felt like this? I almost feel like this is what happens before a mental breakdown, if you don't actively take a break. Anyways, I'll work on the break bit. Here's some light reading for you this weekend.

February 27, 2019

WCW - February - The Ufuoma

Woot woot, it's WCW - February edition! As you know, this was a series I started two years ago, but stopped for various reasons. I restarted in January of this year (see Amama Ekwere's post here) and this month, I am featuring a woman whose Instagram feed will have you wondering what you're doing with your life. I can't remember how I first came across Ufuoma - it might have been on another blog - but I remember the first time I really paid attention. She had traveled to Cuba with a friend and her photos were being liked and retweeted all over Twitter. First of all, I have a desire to visit Cuba one day. Secondly, I fell in love with her photos - they were bright, colorful, vibrant, and I appreciated that Ufuoma and her friend wore their ankara clothes in glorious splendor! 

I have followed her online since then, and I am inspired by her love of God, travel, and people. Without further ado, let's hear a little bit about Ufuoma.

February 25, 2019

The Balancing Act of Life

Hello, and Happy Monday to ya!

How was your weekend? I hope you enjoyed it. Can I be really honest with you guys? I almost didn't have a post for you today. For the past 2 months, most of my posts have been ready in advance, and scheduled to drop at 12am Atlanta time on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. I had a surge or burst of creativity and content at the end of last year through the beginning of this year, and I had two months worth of content to post. And to be honest, I have more content planned for March, but the actual writing of the posts seem to have gotten away from me. Why? Because of Life's Balancing Act.

February 22, 2019

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Thank God It's Friday!

Does anyone else feel like February has pretty much flown by? And my goodness, there's so much going on - Jussie Smollet's case, Nigerian elections, R Kelly's been indicted, Khloe's sister's best friend hooked up with her partner, etc. I just want to turn off all news, go to a beach retreat somewhere and sleep, eat, listen to the water for the next 3 months! How are YOU doing?

February 20, 2019

8 Ways to Reduce Costs and Expenses to Stay Within Budget

MONEY MONEY MONEY!!! A lot of us worry about money - whether we have enough, are saving enough, are spending enough (or too much), etc. If you have noticed, there has been a huge spike in topics of Personal Finance across the internet. Topics from Budgeting to Investing to Saving to Debt Repayment, and more are getting big draws. I've shared some of my Money experiences with you myself, and someone who answered the 2019 Berry Dakara Blog Survey said they'd like to read more blog posts about money. Because I care about you guys and take your suggestions for blog posts, (like with the Things I Learned about Pregnancy), here are small ways that you can cut costs and reduce expenses to help you make and stay within your budget. Well, these are the ways I have reduced my costs personally.

February 18, 2019

What is Perfectionism?

I don't like to admit it, but I'm somewhat of a perfectionist. Or maybe an imperfect perfectionist. I am that person who will not start on a project because I'm trying to iron out all the tiny details first, waiting for everything to be perfect before I even start. I am that person who would rather wait until I have everything in place before I take a step forward.

February 15, 2019

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Happy Belated Valentine's Day.

Who got what? Who gave what? The most important question to me is who ate what? I'm taking Little Miss Cocoa out for a Mummy-Baby date tomorrow, because I hardly ever spoil myself and I really want to go out for a meal - and because she'll eat free, even though she eats like an adult, LOL! Well, I hope you enjoyed yesterday for what it was. Let's check out some links, shall we?

February 13, 2019

What I Learned About Pregnancy

It's been two years since my pregnant days, but when I asked on Instagram what posts people would like to see, someone asked me to share some of the things I learned about pregnancy. I aim to please, and so, here are my top 10 things I found out during pregnancy. There are a lot more things about pregnancy, but I wanted to share based on MY experience.

February 11, 2019

7 Reasons to Go on a Cruise

Hey there,

My name is Berry Dakara, and I am a cruise lover!!!! Well, to be honest, I've only gone on 2 cruises in my life. The first time was in September 2013 on a 5-day getaway to the Caribbean. My parents, sister, nephew and I hopped aboard a Carnival cruise ship. I blogged about it way back when over here. It was such an awesome vacation, that ever since then, I've wanted to go cruising. I was supposed to go on another cruise in February 2017, but my husband and I had to cancel our trip, as we had recently discovered we were expecting Baby Cocoa. It was not advisable for pregnant women to travel to the Caribbean at the time, because of the Zika virus. If you've been reading my blog, then you know my family recently embarked on a 7-night cruise on the Royal Caribbean Allure of the Seas cruise ship. As a matter of fact, at least one or two family members goes on a cruise every year. We're a cruisin family and I thought it'd great to let you know why you should go on a cruise too!

February 8, 2019

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Thank God for another Friday!

I need some time to just regroup and get myself in order. On the phone with Cakes yesterday, I told him that I wish I had two days where I have nothing to do... so I can do EVERYTHING. LOL! Does that make sense to you? I feel like I have a lot on the back-burner, and I'm struggling to catch up and work on them :(

I also told another friend of mine that if I had the money, I would hire a cleaner, driver, social media manager, photographer/videographer, video editor, hair stylist (for Little Miss Cocoa), laundry person, masseuse (for me of course), cook, and more! To think that these are the many hats I wear, and I haven't even scratched the surface!!

Anyway, let's get on with the links for your weekend read aye? LOL, someone who filled out my blog survey said my Lovely Links are like mini magazines.

February 6, 2019

5 Lessons Learned from Ending or Losing a Friendship

This is a hard post for me to write. In the past two years, I have lost three friends that I thought would be lifetime friendships. I won't go into the details about each of them, so that I don't rehash hurt feelings (on their sides, or mine), but I do want to talk about the experience of losing friends. I imagine it's weird to lose that many friends in a short amount of time, but it is what it is.

February 4, 2019

Life Lately: January 2019

Hi there!

Thanks to everyone who's filled out my 2019 Blog Survey so far. The feedback is so useful to me, and I appreciate constructive criticism to help me do and be better. Like I said, I want my content this year to really sit well with you and keep you entertained, inspired, engaged, and even thoughtful. I promised I'd share a monthly Life Lately post on the first Monday of every month, and here's my recap of January. Enjoy!

February 1, 2019

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Thank God It's Friday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And welcome to February! Wow, it's a whole new month. Weren't we just saying Happy New Year like 2 days ago? Sometimes it feels like the days are dragging soooooo slowly, and then at other times, it's like "Wait, how did one month just fly by?" Anyway, here's to good things in February! I hope you enjoy this week's links. And don't forget, you can always share interesting articles with me and they just might end up in a Lovely Links post in the future.

January 31, 2019

Berry Dakara Blog Reader Survey 2019

Hi there!

I hope you've been enjoying my return to consistent blogging. I made a goal to put up at least 3 posts per week, and I have quite liked the content I've created in the past month. I would like to hear from YOU though, as you are my audience and I want to make sure that the things I post are mostly relevant, interesting or inspiring to you.  Kindly take a few minutes to respond to my survey below. If you can't see the form, simply click BERRY DAKARA BLOG SURVEY 2019 to go to the survey. I would really appreciate it. Thanks!

January 30, 2019

WCW January 2019 - Amama Ekwere

Guess what feature is back on the blog!!! Well, if you're reading this, then you know already. I started a WCW Feature back in 2017 (see my posts featuring Freky Andy and Daboju). I wanted to feature women that inspire me on a monthly basis, and the posts were well-received. However, I was heavily pregnant when I started the series, and by the time June came around, Little Miss Cocoa also made her grand entrance! At that point, I was not only overwhelmed with being a new and first-time mum, but also started dealing with personal issues. It's taken almost 2 years to get back on this train, but BETTER LATE THAN NEVER!

January 28, 2019

Six Tips on How to Read More Books!

Hey there!

Are you a book lover but don't have the time to read? Or someone who wants to read more books but don't know how to get started? As a young child, I LOVED reading, so much that I read almost all the novels in our house at least twice over! In adulthood, I do enjoy reading, but finding the time (and sometimes energy/motivation) to read has been a bit of a struggle. However, in the past 2 months, I have been able to increase my reading dramatically! I read 4 books in December, and I'm on my 5th book for January. My goal/intention for the year is to read 2 books a month, so I think I'm off to a great start! See my tips below on how to read more books this year.

January 26, 2019

BERRY VLOG: Dark-Skinned Mamas, Light-Skinned Kids

Have I ever shared on the blog that I once met a man who refused to believe Little Miss Cocoa is my child? As in, he argued with me for 30 minutes, insisting that my sister is her mother. All this because I'm dark-skinned and Cocoa is light-skinned, just like my sister and her children. Do your kids look different from you? So much so that people feel the need to comment and ask if you're sure your children are yours? Are you dark-skinned with light-skinned children, or vice versa? 

In this video, I chat with Remi Makanjuola of @GraceToParent and we share our thoughts on responding to questions and comments we have received from strangers, friends and family alike. We also talk about how we plan to teach our children that beauty comes from within and the color of your skin should not define your worth.

January 25, 2019

Berry Lovely Links

YAY! It's Friday and I'm happy for the weekend, particularly because the talk show I cohost, Tea With Cubes is back on Sunday!!! Check out this post from yesterday for more information. Other than that, I don't think I have a lot of things lined up to do, and if possible will stay home ALL DAY on Saturday. I'll probably just tidy up, catch up on reading, Netflix, and working on some content for my Youtube channel - PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEASE, if any part of you likes me at all, subscribe to my channel! I put up a video today for your viewing pleasure, so take some time to check it out.

And with that all said, enjoy the links I've curated this week.

January 24, 2019

Tea With Cubes Season 2 Premiere

Your favorite talk show is BACK!!! This Sunday, January 27th, at 4pm EST (10pm WAT), LIVE on Instagram and Facebook @TeaWithCubes  join us for our first episode of Season 2 of Tea With Cubes. We are a trio of dynamic women who aim to reach the modern African woman (and man) through insightful, inspiring and entertaining discussions on current events and interesting topics.

January 23, 2019

Winter Blues

Hey there! Long time no style post. It's not like I'm good at style posts anyways - I was told that I'm not fashionable, after all. I dress well, but I'm not stylish - I definitely do not follow trends, I don't dress very well for my body type/shape, etc. My personal style is kinda weird and all over the place. I like a lot of monochrome outfits, while also liking my Nigerian attire. I almost wish I could wear more heels, and I certainly wish I looked more pulled together in an easy, classy, chic, and effortless manner. Alas, I'm not! But guess what? I will still put up Style posts because it's my blog and President Obama said, Yes I can! LOL

January 22, 2019

BERRY VLOG: High Ponytail on 4C Natural Hair Tutorial

It's been ages since I put up a hair post, much less a hair style tutorial. But today, I'm sharing how I did a very quick and easy High Ponytail style on my natural hair. It's also a protective style as the ends of my hair are tucked away. You already know that last year I cut my hair into a Tapered Cut (and also shared why). My hair has grown out a little faster than I anticipated, and I don't feel like I really played around with the shorter style. It's okay though, moving on. I hope you enjoy this short tutorial, and gives you some ideas on how to style your natural hair. BTW, I also played around with the High Ponytail, so there are 2 bonus styles at the end!

January 21, 2019

Why I Don't Want to be a Mummy Blogger

Can I be honest with you? As in, really honest? I do NOT want to be a Mummy Blogger. There is nothing within me that wants to be referred to as a Mummy Blogger (or Mommy Blogger for the Americans). You can call me a Blogger who's a Mother/Mum/Mom, but please do not refer to me as a Mummy Blogger. I realize it might look like I dislike those who are Mummy Bloggers, but I really don't. More grease, spit up, powder, and general children bodily fluids to your elbows! You guys rock! I'm sure you're wondering why Mummy Blogging is not for me? Well, scroll down to see why.

January 18, 2019

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How's your week been? This week has been weird - I read 2 books on a whim that weren't on my radar before this week, while neglecting the ones I actually have on my reading list. Work's alright. Cocoa's going through a phase. I had a mini breakdown after reading one of the books. But I'm glad the weekend is here, and pay day (even though most of my money is going towards debt cancellation and bills). Let's check out some interesting links, shall we?

January 16, 2019

Ten Tips for Reading with Toddlers

I used to worry a little bit about building a reading habit for my baby. I read and heard many times that you should start reading to your baby while pregnant, and every day after they're born to help them discover a love for reading. I had a little bit of a rough start and had some mum guilt festering below the surface, but thankfully, my toddler loves to read!

January 15, 2019

Book Review: Adenike by Adenike Oyetunde

I wasn't planning to review this, or any book for that matter, but after I happened upon Adenike and read it from cover to cover in a few hours, I knew I had to share it with you here. Before I go into the book itself, I'd like to share a little background story of how I know the author, Adenike Oyetunde.

January 14, 2019

My Word for 2019

The very first time I ever posted my Word Of the Year was in 201*. I can't remember where I saw the trend - most likely from other blogs I followed and my interest was piqued. Again, just like New Year resolutions and Goals, a lot of people find them to be cliche. That's their prerogative - everything is not for everyone. But I like the idea of being guided by a word or phrase. It influences your thoughts, and therefore your actions.

January 12, 2019

BERRY VLOG - Random Questions with Verastic!

I finally met Vera, whose blog I have followed for the past few years, in December. When she told me she would be in Atlanta during Christmas, I immediately jumped at the chance to stop by for a visit with her. Little Miss Cocoa and Ada Verastic were friendly towards each other, and Vera and I talked like we were old friends. I thought it would be nice to film a video with her - I'd like to do more collaboration videos this year, and we had a blast answering the questions from the 300 Writing Prompts journal (remember when I tried to make it a regular series, called BERRY WRITES on the blog?). Anyway, I hope you enjoy our video.

Have a great weekend!

January 11, 2019

Berry Lovely Links

It's another Friday, and another set of links that I came across or were recommended to me during the week. Did you know that you can email, tweet or DM articles you find interesting and they may end up in a Lovely Links post (and a shout out too?). Check out some of the things that I took time to read and enjoy in the past week.

January 9, 2019

My 2019 Goals

As the year begins, and everyone thinks about their goals and resolutions (or shuns them because they are cliche), I have been thinking about some of my goals for the year. I have shared my blogging and some personal goals in years past, and even my Word of the Year a couple of times. I kinda skipped sharing my goals last year - although I did mention wanting to lose weight (which I did, and then regained some towards the end of the year). This year I wondered whether I want to go through the process of sharing my goals on this platform. And at the end of the day, I have decided that while I may not share some of the more intimate things I'd like to accomplish this year, it doesn't hurt to list out the others.

January 7, 2019

Life Lately: December/2018 Review

Hey there!

One of my goals for 2019 is putting up more posts! I want you to hear more from me, be entertained, be inspired, get something to think about, etc. I always used to enjoy reading Life Lately or Taking Stock posts from other bloggers, but never indulged. I would randomly put up Life Update posts, but those were few and far between. This year though, I would like them to be on a monthly basis - on the first Monday of every month. I promise to review the past month, and give you a little more insight into me. I hope you enjoy these posts going forward, and will share a spot of your life with me in the comments.

January 5, 2019

BERRY VLOG: Christmas Day With My Siblings

Hi there!

I thought it would fun to share a short and sweet video from Christmas morning with Cocoa and my siblings.

I hope you had an excellent Christmas!

January 4, 2019

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For our first Lovely Links post of the year, I thought it would be nice to check out some 2018 in Review posts from some of my favorite bloggers. I like to read the reviews and lessons that people learned over time, and you never know what you might pick up from reading about other people's experiences. If you blog or have a Youtube channel and have reviewed 2018, please feel free to leave the link below so that I can catch up with you. Have fun reading!

January 2, 2019

Great Devotionals on Youversion for Goal Setting

As you all know, I've been all about Goals! It's a new year, and most people are in the mental space of creating goals (or making resolutions) for 2019. I created my Goal Getter Guides to help people in setting new goals that align with what they want in life - I hope you've downloaded and started using them! But I wanted to go further and recommend some great devotionals I've come across on Youversion for setting and achieving goals.

January 1, 2019

Happy New Year!

WELCOME TO 2019!!!

This year, I pray above all else, that God's will for your life be done. It's great to make all kinds of plans and have all sorts of goals, but the very best ones are those that fall under the will of God. May your year hold many blessings, in Jesus name. Amen.