February 14, 2016

The Moment Cakes left the Friend-Zone

Cakes and I met in February or March of 2012, near the start of my NYSC year. I've told the story a few times here about how we met, but the short version is - we met at church. The longer version is the pastor said we should say hello to 5 new people, and Cakes was the first person I said hello to, I think. Well, he appeared in front of me from nowhere and introduced himself.

Even though we didn't speak again for a week afterwards, I thought he was cute and sent him a text message. He called and I think we've spoken almost everyday since then. Now, I wasn't particularly looking for a boyfriend (very looooooooooong story), so we became friends. There was an attraction, yes, but I wasn't in that head space of having a boyfriend. Before I agreed to be his girlfriend much later that year, I hadn't had an official boyfriend for 6 years! Not that there were no guys in between - there were... (maybe too many) - but nobody made it to relationship status. I was determined that my next boyfriend would be my final boyfriend.

Anyways, after a couple of months of getting to know him better, hanging out, talking on the phone, he mentioned that he had a wedding a couple of hours away. He was going as a guest and also the wedding cake designer, and he asked me to come along. I wasn't busy that weekend and agreed to go with him and his friends. The mini road trip was nice, we got to the wedding, had fun and on the drive home, he sat in the backseat with me.

Something clicked in my head and I rested my head on his shoulder (or maybe chest) and in an instant, I thought to myself, "Hmm. I think I can see him as my boyfriend." Nothing extraordinary happened, but that moment was a game changer for me.

The one photo from that day.
It still took some time for all of me to get to the point where I could agree to be his girlfriend, but I can say without a doubt, that singular moment when I rested on him was the start of #BerryandCakes.

Happy Valentine's Day!

28 comments:

  1. Awwww. Rested your head on his chest eh? Nice move Berry.
    May God continue to keep you both in hood health, happiness and put a new song on your lips day in day out. Happy Valentines day.

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  2. Awww....such a sweet story. Wishing you guys many many more sweet Valentine days!

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  3. Awww, what a cute story!
    Happy Valentine's Day Berry!

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  4. You are resting your head on a man's chest. After all the home training your parents gave you. Shaking my head. *saunters away*

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  5. Awwwww. This is so sweet.
    Game changing moment indeed. Nice that you also recognized it.

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    1. Thank you :) Some little things like this or holding hands capture my attention.

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  6. Aww. So sweet!Love that you remember the moment. Happy Valentine's day Cake and Berry!

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  7. What a beautiful moment to remember! Happy valentine's day to you and yours.

    @Beautifully.June

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  8. Awwww, so sweet.
    Wishing you more blissful years together.

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  9. Awwww, you heard the rhythm of his heartbeat and it gave you a special message that he was THE ONE! Forgive my over-active imagination. Lol... I love Love. :-)

    You two are so cute, I like how you support each other. God bless you both!

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    1. Nedoux Lol!!!

      But you have a point. Lovely story. If you see how anxious I was for this page to load Ehn.

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    2. LOOOOL, erm sure Nedoux. Hehehe.

      Thanks to you and Ijenna :)

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  10. Sweet! Best wishes Berry+Cakes!

    G

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  11. There's a Taylor Swift song for this. I'll be back when I remember it <3

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  12. I can sorta relate....6 years ago, I decided my next boyfriend would be the final one. I got into an accidental relationship a year and a half ago, luckily I extricated myself after a few months. I can't wait to have this testimony o...I find it so difficult to get attracted to anyone. Recently been toying with the idea of just settling and getting the whole manhunt thing over with.

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