October 4, 2016

BERRY WRITES - The Best Thing About Being Partnered

I'm introducing a new segment on the blog, called BERRY WRITES. I'm sure I've mentioned more than a few times that even though I have been blogging for a few years, I don't consider myself to be a writer. It doesn't make sense, but I'm weird like that. Even when I get compliments about this blog and other pieces I've written (check out some of them here), I usually reply with very modest gratitude. In one of my recent vlogs, someone asked me if I'd consider writing a book and even though I'm still very skeptical that anyone would want to read a book by me, I am challenging myself to write more.

I got this journal a month ago with the express intention of writing everyday for 300 days. Today was the first time I wrote in it, and I intend to share some of my thoughts in this journal with you. This will be a weekly feature - on Tuesdays - and you're welcome to add your own thoughts in the comments every week :)


Today's topic - What is the best thing about being either single or partnered (whichever you are right now?)

The best thing about being partnered/married is knowing that someone who isn't/wasn't a part of my family loves me so much - almost unconditionally. I say 'almost' because even though Cakes swears I could never do anything to lose his love, I am a realist and I am pretty sure there are one or two things I could do that would make him decide it's not worth it. That being said though, Cakes loves me and it feels oh-so-good.

Through the fights, my not-so-good characteristics and downright nastiness at times, he loves me in spite of it all. My family has no choice but to love me; I expect my friends to love me (because I love them :p), and this guy came along and loved me for no reason.

In the early days, I would roll my eyes when he said he loved me, because "Dude, we haven't known each other long enough." He would still say it over and over, not minding my pessimism. He still says it, in the middle of our Berry and Cakes World Wars. It can be annoying when all I want to do is hold on to my grudge for an extra hour or week.

So what's the best thing about being married? Knowing that someone loves you when they really don't have to.

And the next best thing is having guilt-free sex. BUAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Nah, I'm kidding.























Actually, I'm not.

What's the best thing about your current situation?

21 comments:

  1. I'm not married but I'm a relationship and It's the same as yours. Having someone I know will always be there regardless, it's a good feeling and definitely one of the best things about having a partner.

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    1. Yup yup. You and I are on the same page Cassie.

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  2. Hi Berry. I'd love to read more berry writes. I'm currently single (as in not even in a relationship) and the best thing about that is learning to love myself and pamper myself. I've learnt to take extra care myself and do nice things for myself even if it's buying a gift or going to the spa or trying out a new restaurant all by myself. I used to think that if I was single I'd be lonely and miserable but I don't think that way anymore. I hope I made sense. Lol! Forgive all my ramblings.
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    1. Yay, I'm glad you like this feature already! I used to do everything you mentioned when I was single - there's really no sense in being miserable because you're single.

      And P.S. you didn't ramble :)

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  3. The best thing about being partnered is that you have someone to share your high points and low points with. For example if you loose your job you have your partner to depend on until you get another one and if there are happy moments you have someone to share it with and that makes you happier and more secured. Also you don't always come home to an empty house. Thats also nice.

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    1. I totally agree with this - especially this year as Cakes and I have had ups and downs. It's been good having someone to share them with.

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  4. I loveeeeee being married!! I don't know what the best thing is. maybe just having someone who looks out for me SO much! Oh dear. I'm gonaaa get all mushy now. Lol!

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    1. Yeah, your marriage excitement is always very evident :p

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  5. The best thing about being married is having someone who is there for you despite my flaws and all. I so love being married honestly!

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  6. Single. The freedom to up and go and do things on a whim without having to factor or budget for two.

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    1. AIN'T THAT THE TRUTH!!! Fashi, I can't even lie about missing that aspect of life.

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  7. I can relate with you on not feeling comfy with being called a writer, really. I just say I love stringing words together lol. If that makes any sense. I don't even know what category I fall into so lemme just waltz away.
    LIFE | HELLO OCTOBER

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    1. LOL, why don't you know what category you're in?!?

      Maybe I could call myself a stringer too :p

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  8. I love being partnered because there is nothing better in knowing that someone loves you unconditional. You can share everything with, no matter what.

    www.sincerelymissj.com/

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    1. Yup, it certainly feels good. And we have to make sure we don't push it or take it for granted.

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  9. Errmmm...I saw this before and wasn't sure whether I wanted to say anything. I am not married, neither am I in a relationship but I love it!! Of course I want these things but right now, I am content the way I am...I keep discovering myself and besides I can do what I want.lol

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    1. YAAAAAAAAAAS!!! I think that no matter what relationship status, you should seize the benefits, and singledom comes with a lot of them!

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  10. I think the best part about being single is getting to discover yourself, being irresponsible without having the consequences affect another (im not encouraging irresponsibility but those days when you mess up, it's great that i don't have to let someone else bear the weight of what i've done wrong too.)

    But most of all it gives you a chance to do some introspection and really put earnest effort in improving yourself and being the best version of yourself. When you are in a relationship it's easy to get caught up in "having a great relationship" and the other person. When the relationship is over you see what you didn't see about yourself because you were pre-ccupied.

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    1. Oh yeah, when you're single you have a lot of time to learn about yourself - what you like and dislike, your wants, needs, etc. It's a great time for self-development too, as you have a lot of time to yourself.

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  11. Hmm, the single life or the partnered up life? Got mixed feelings about both. I'm presently in the former like ms. Yaila but without all them solo activities cos I'd feel like everyone's whispering & pointing at me. Basically, I'd feel self concious doing those all by myself. I'd like to be in the latter. So, what do I like about been single? The freedom to do as I like without being accountable to anybody but I do want to be accountable to someone *sad* See? Mixed feelings, lol

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