As I was saying in my previous post, my family members were very worried about me because I was quickly approaching 30, unmarried, and didn't seem to care. And truthfully, I really didn't care that much. I knew I would get married eventually, but I wasn't on a timetable. Yeah, it probably helped that there were different guys along the way, so I was preoccupied anyways *hides face.* But the bottom line is that I wasn't sitting somewhere, wallowing and waiting for my life to start, because I did have a life!
In fact, after a silly breakup a few days before my 24th or 25th birthday, I promised myself that the next person I acknowledged as my BOYFRIEND, would be the person that I would marry. That actually held true sha, even in the midst of the different guys that I "talked to" through the years. I just didn't want to settle and end up miserable. There were a few guys before Cakes that I honestly could have potentially married, but there was always something off. One guy's parents seemed to like me more than he himself liked me. BUH-BYE! Another one was a divorcee and wasn't sure he ever wanted to get married again. PEACE OUT! Others were just using me to play - and I stupidly allowed them. RUNNING FAR AWAY!!! At the end of the day though, even though I liked (and even loved), settling was not going to be an option for me. I just wasn't desperate.
Some women see marriage as the ultimate goal in life. I can't knock you if that's been your dream. But my question is, if that's your dream, why settle just because you're advancing in age? Why live your life as if you're incomplete without your future husband? Why wallow in self-pity? Let God guide you to someone who will be a great match for you.
I'm happy I didn't settle just because I was 30 and unmarried. I can tell you that all my family members who were worried and wanted me to marry random people, all LOVE Cakes! My mum even tells me to thank God for him, because she doesn't know how many guys would have been able to manage my randomness (hehe).
Listen, we are all beautiful in our own way. Show off your beauty and live your life like someone who is complete (God should be the one to complete you anyways). Do the things that you enjoy! Develop yourself! Take a course here or there! Travel! Learn how to manage money (you might need this even more after you get married - trust me!). LIVE YOUR LIFE! Life's too short to be stuck in a marriage because you felt too old and decided to settle. If anybody gives you any wahala, tell them Berry said they should leave you alone.