You guys know I've been harping on about gaining weight since the wedding and not-so-secretly been blaming Cakes for it (oops!). At the end of the day, my body is MY responsibility and I should have stopped eating as much, and continued exercising, so let's shift the blame back to me. But that's not the issue here.
A couple of weeks ago, I was crying in front of the mirror (what else is new?) because I have been feeling very unattractive and soft and jiggly all over my body. And sweet Cakes came and wiped my face and says to me, "But baby, I'm even more attracted to you now."
*insert record scratching sound here*
To me, that was the worst thing he could have said. I felt like he was putting his wants (my voluptuous bodacious boobilicious bod) before my needs (my emotional/mental state). I didn't understand how he could see me crying and tell me that he preferred me like that. I made my feelings known to him and since then, he's been a lot more supportive towards my efforts to eat better - although sha, his promise to wake up and make me exercise has not come to fruition oooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!
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ROMEO! What are you doing up there?
JULIET! Waiting for you to run up the stairs! It's exercise :)
Anyway, I mentioned this encounter to a couple of people, and they said, "Ah, if your husband says he likes you like that, then why are you complaining about weight gain? Hmm, you're not serious. You had better not lose weight o, if not he will go and look for that kind of body outside. Your body is his, so you have to keep it how he likes it."
*insert blank stare*
Sorry o, but I DO NOT agree in any way, shape or form!!! MBA! NON! NEHI NEHI!!! First of all, the Bible verse that talks about your bodies belong to your spouse is referring to sex. Secondly, why would anybody say that if I lose weight, Cakes will cheat on me? (Okay, fine, I know a lot of Nigerian men cheat based on the EXCUSE that their wives' bodies changed - I won't even go there because that will be a whole essay) Thirdly it's MY body to take care of. Fourthly, does it make any sense for me to stay at a weight where I'm clearly miserable simply because my husband said he likes my weight like that?
ALL Y'ALL JOKERS!!!!!
Anyways, I just rolled my eyes at the offending statement and walked away.