September 2, 2014

When you ask me if I'm pregnant...

I get this question more times than I like, and when the question or assumption comes out of anyone's mouth or text, these are the things that go through my mind...

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  1. It makes me wonder if my weight gain is THAT obvious! And if it is that obvious, what are you thinking... 3 months preggers or 5 months?
  2. It seems like you're putting me under pressure. You might not intend to, but the pressure is there.
  3. I wonder if something is wrong with me for not being pregnant at this time. Like did I fail to meet up a schedule I wasn't aware of?
  4. It makes me laugh, because well, it lessens the discomfort in the air.
  5. I want to roll my eyes and walk away or hang up the phone.
  6. Alternatively, I want to ask if YOU are pregnant, regardless of whether you're male or female. 
  7. I want to push my tummy all the way out and say, YES OF COURSE! It's the prankster in me.
  8. When I say no, don't lecture me about having little faith. Guess what? I have faith that I'll be pregnant when God says it's time, but RIGHT NOW, I just happen to NOT be pregnant!!!
There are actually people I avoid speaking to because I know all they want to do is lecture me and ask why I'm not pregnant yet.

#Justsaying

#Okbye

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26 comments:

  1. It is well, my dear. As a single lady who is now 30, I've also tired of people asking me about marriage
    One thing I've learnt in life, and wish others would appreciate also, is that as much a the destination is great, it is very important to enjoy the ride. At the end of the day, we will get to where we're going by God's Grace, so what's with stressing about it now?

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  2. Just the way single girls are asked why are you not married?.. I have two different responses these days, one for people I can tolerate and another for the ones I don't give a flying monkey about. For people I tolerate, I respond: Show me a store where husbands are sold and I will gladly make a purchase... For those I don't give a flying monkey about, I respond: Why are you still married?.... Now, they all know to leave me alone.

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  3. Oh wow! People need to chillllll kilode? Whatever happened to not putting ya mouth where it is not needed? Sigh! They won't even allow you enjoy months of being married. Na wah oh.

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  4. Its sooooooooo annoying, like you are on a clock! People should learn to respect other peoples privacy....belle no be wetin dey dey hide, once you carry belle e go show!

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  5. Hmm indeed people need to learn to respect the privacy of others

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  6. Ha I know what you mean o, I was unintentionally rude to a close family member because I just got fed up! I don't understand why people keep putting pressure on another person's uterus! Leave me jare!

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    1. Lol, I remember way before I got married, I was getting the whole marriage thingy from a close family member and I stopped speaking to her. :(

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  7. Lool. Oya, lemme play the devil's advocate. Sometimes, you are the one to blame joo. I have talked to you on 2 different occasions, and you went "...And no, I am not pregnant." Then I told you "That didn't even cross my mind when I asked the question." So yes, sometimes, people's questions are not an allusion to pregnancy.

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  8. Our people have a way of having an opinion about everyone's life. Are you pregnant yet? When are we coming for your wedding? Ahh you are adding oo..Please reduce small! The degree of annoyance it causes is one that I cannot adequately convey. Maybe people mean well but it doesn't make it any less invasive. I feel you boo. Jodi Kode

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  9. Ugh - my mom and I were discussing this. I'm not at that point yet but I feel for those who want to be pregnant and are not but still have to deal with the interrogation. I think it can be so insensitive and borderline rude ( I didn't say which side of the border sha )

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  10. Buahahahah ...if you are as po faced as me then everyone leaves you the hell alone and they don't ask any questions. The problem is you all smile too much
    xxxx

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  11. Berry, I feel you so much on this one. When I get asked, I only say huh? And proceed to look very confused. That usually answers it for me. Also, if I don't like you much, I just say, not like I will tell you if I am and walk away.

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  12. LOL could it be "Are you pregnant?" is the Married people's version of "When will you marry?"
    Don't mind them jare.
    x

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  13. This is what happens all the time...most people tend not to mind their own business..in my case,when i was single,the question was,'when are you getting married,let's come and chop rice'..when i got married and was pregnant,the question was,'aren't you due yet? you should have given birth by now,' ..then when baby is born, you'll get all sorts of unsolicited questions & advice..try this try that..why hasn't your baby started crawling,hasn't any teeth come out? ..hasn't he/she started walking? lol..it's hilarious..it goes on,my dear...it will always continue ,so don't pay no mind....do not allow people's comments or questions to bother you.Focus on being the best you can be.

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  14. I am at this stage too. married for 4 months and I cnt even crave anytin or feel tires without being asked this nasty question. Between do I have to announce if I am pregnant??? shebi the bulge would shower so y not relax and watch. I feel its very rude

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  15. I remember my 1st job interview, I was asked why I wasn't married. I said a right person hasn't come along yet and the interviewer went ahead to counsel me on how it's all my fault, etc. And my friend at the same interview was asked why she hadn't had a 2nd child and wasn't pregnant when her 1st was already 3. People are so nosy.. and they just move on not caring that they've thrown a wrench into someone's day almost ruining it.

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    1. Oh Mi Gosh! What nerve, that's as funny as it is annoying and off-putting.

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  16. People have no chill whatsoever. I am 24. Got married a few months ago. And yes, i'll love to have a baby soon, but since I am not pregnant, why do people keep asking? And it's not like my mum or mum-in-law sef.....Other nosy human beings. I just don't get it sha. Most times I tell them "e no dey hide na. Wait till you see". #whew #diaryofanaijawife

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  17. Hilarious!! The joys of being a new wife. Expectations (pregnancy wise) hit the roof...

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