If you've been following the news, you might have seen the video posted by TMZ of American Footballer, Ray Rice, punching his then-fiancee (now wife) in the head, rendering her unconscious. I'm not posting the video here, because I just don't want to - just Google it if you wanna see.
Anyways, I was driving home and thinking about it - after this chick got knocked out by her fiancee, she still went ahead and married him a month later. And I had to ask myself why on earth any sensible woman would do it. Which led to a broader thought - a lot of females stay with their boyfriends or husbands who exhibit very bad behavior. It goes from violence to cheating to verbal abuse and so on... WHY STAY?
I've never dated anyone that hit me (shebi he wants to die that day?) but I've been in relationships and pseudo-relationships, where when I'm really honest with myself, they were clearly bad bad boys. Was it the one who had a womanizing reputation (turns out it wasn't JUST a reputation), or the one who talked down to females seizing on their vulnerability, or the one who used Christianity to lead females on?
Being in one or some of aforementioned situations, I think I have a little insight into why a typical good girl likes and stays with a bad boy = SHE THINKS SHE CAN SAVE HIM. She thinks that if she just stays a little bit longer, loves him a little bit harder, enduring the pain that will surely and only make her stronger, then he will start to turn around. He will start to make a change for the better. He will finally see the light that she's shining and he'll settle down and marry her. And then she can say to her female counterparts, the naysayers, his exes and/or side chicks, a big fat
I TOLD YOU SO!
Unfortunately, more times than not, she's the one who ultimately ends up receiving that statement.
What do you guys think?
P.S. - DISCLAIMER - I'm not saying I was a very good girl o! Before somebody from my past will come and cast me. Yes, I did bad things too. Bye.
More P.S. - If you are in a relationship where you're being abused in any way, shape or form (verbal, physical, emotional, etc), please please please, for your sake, LEAVE! You cannot change him, only God AND he can change himself (God alone will not change him - God gave us free will, so if he chooses not to change, God most likely isn't going to do anything about it).