BERRY WRITES is a weekly feature where I will share my thoughts on different topics culled from my 300 Writing Prompts journal. You can look forward to them every Tuesday, and you're very welcome to tell me your experiences and thoughts as well.
Are you one of those people who finds it hard to say no? You accept every invitation that comes your way. You never ever decline running an errand or doing a task that someone asks you to do. Even when you're stretched thin, you just want to please everyone around you, so you agree to everything. I kinda used to be that way. In different aspects of my life, I would agree to almost anything that came across my table. As I've gotten older, it's gotten easier to say no. I generally ask myself, "What's the worst that could happen if I say no?" If it's something I can live without and not bother my pretty head about it, chances are I'll decline.
When it comes to blogging, things can be tricky. Bloggers are always looking for brands to collaborate with - it makes us look more "professional" or successful. That is, until you find out that a lot of brands are not willing to actually compensate you. Let me tell the short story of a time I said NO to a brand's proposal.
About a year or two ago, I got an email from a hair product brand - I believe the owner is Nigerian but lives in the US. She wanted to send me her product to try out in exchange for a review post, and if I remember correctly, a giveaway for my readers. This was at the time when I had read two different posts on other Nigerian Lifestyle blogs about how brands undervalue and underrate bloggers, so I was already feeling some type of way. I asked the brand owner for more information, while doing my own research on the side.
What I found was not appealing. The company had gotten off to a very rough and rocky start, and there were whispers of "scam" being thrown around the natural hair blogs in America. Based on that information, I said NO to the brand owner and kept it moving... that is until I came across the same brand earlier this year on Instagram with hundreds of thousands of followers!!! Apparently, it really was just a rough START, but she kept moving along and seems to be doing well now. Sometimes I wonder if I missed a big opportunity, and whether I should have said YES after all.
Tell me about a time YOU said No to anyone, concerning anything.