For a very long time, I was afraid of speaking in public - put me in front of more than 3 people and my heart starts beating fast, I start to stutter, get chills, while breaking out in sweat. I remember one particularly horrible episode in Dundee when I had to do a presentation for some course I was doing - oh the gut wrenching shame!!!!!
4 years ago, I was at one of the lowest points in my life and realized that a lot of decisions I had made in my life personally and professionally, were based on running away from the things I feared (real and imagined) but they ultimately led me into situations that were neither suited to me nor did I have any business being in.
So I decided to start facing my fears head on. First on my list was Public Speaking - I went to Lagos Business School (I had no job, no business at the time and no stream of income so was totally reliant on my savings) forked out over N100,000 and registered for a Public Speaking Course. It was just 5 days but I was determined and it was a great help.
While I had no real reason for picking that fear first, I seemed to be on to something because shortly after, I started my business and in the last 3 years I have had cause to stand in front of a number of audiences - speaking or teaching and I marvel at how my heart beats a little less faster, how coherent I am, cracking jokes and sounding intelligent! LOL!
I have since come to realize that our 'mistakes' and the situations they lead us into are really moments where we get to reassess and re-chart our paths to get to the place where we were always meant to be.
These moments are painful and sometimes life changing but ultimately they make up the catalytic formula we need to face who we really are while re mapping our journeys to our destined places.
So my question is - What are you really afraid of?
P.S. Coincidentally at my church here in Atlanta, we've been talking about fear, and the tagline for the series is "FEAR is the Devil's Stop Sign."