The premise is this: people are different, and the way we all express and receive love is different. Gary Chapman was able to observe couples over time and came up with 5 different Love Languages:
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
Now, people generally express their love in one or two dominant ways, and that is the way they receive love too. For instance, if Acts of Service is my dominant love language, I would feel particularly loved if Cakes did the dishes, and I would feel that I'm showing love by making him breakfast when he's running late for church. If Physical Touch is your dominant love language, you're more prone to giving hugs or high fives, and you feel close to your significant other when he/she kisses you or gives you a foot massage (lol).
It makes things a lot easier when people know their love languages, and those of their friends, family and loved ones. If my friend speaks Words of Affirmation dominantly, she might not appreciate my sending her flowers as much as me writing a letter or email to lift her up. Or if my father's love language is Quality Time, no matter how many S5's I buy him, he won't appreciate them as much as my visiting him and spending time with him.
Soooooooo, what's YOUR Love Language? You can check it here. Please share with me :)
BTW, some kind times, I think my dominant love languages are changing o. I'm going to take the assessment too.