March 11, 2019

Two Affirmations to Help You Gain More Confidence and be Kind to Yourself

Hi everyone,

I hope you had a splendid weekend. Mine was not too bad. I could and should have been more productive but instead took a lot of time to rest. I wish I had balanced the R&R with more productivity, but that's alright. I did accomplish two or three things, so I wasn't a complete bum - and this is what leads me to share my post today. Recognizing and acknowledging the little things to help you increase your confidence.



For International Women's Day, I spearheaded designing and giving out cards with affirmations on them, and leaving people room to think about how they will foster gender balance in the world.

The first affirmation that stood out to me was:

No success is too small to celebrate, and I revel in the tiny wins today.

I can typically be hard on myself if I don't secure the big wins and complete EVERYTHING on my To-Do lists. What I forget is that I complete some of the things on my list, I should in fact recognize when I have accomplished something, no matter how small. It's no wonder I struggle with confidence and impostor syndrome. I don't acknowledge the little things, which in fact, turn into the big things. It's something I have to learn to do, and something I'm beginning to implement is having a weekly spreadsheet of my wins, and what I've accomplished at work.

I had a job interview a few months ago, and even though I didn't particularly want the job, I didn't get it because I did not sell myself. Why didn't I sell myself? Because I don't think I've done anything worthwhile - this in itself is silly: I have an MBA, 10 years of work experience, International Work Experience, work across several industries and different positions. Instead of recognizing the wealth of experience I have, I have looked at it like I'm all over the place. How I see my experience is a huge factor. I can either draw on the positives, or be hampered by the negatives. All this is to say, going forward, I am recognizing and acknowledging my positives, no matter how small they are.

The second affirmation that I really liked was:
My gifts, talents, skills and personality make me unique - I am one in 7.7 billion!
Here's the simple truth. There is absolutely nobody else who is exactly like you. You are the only person in the world who is you, who thinks, acts, feels, dances, loves, laughs, cries, works, etc the way you do. There are 7.7 billion people in the world, and you are unique. You bring your own set of skills, talents, experiences, gifts to the table and that should make you feel good about yourself.

Even though some people do certain things better than you, or have more than you, that does not take away from your uniqueness. You have to learn how to harness all of you in a positive manner. They say you're dramatic - tell them you're more expressive and in touch with your feelings. They say you're too quiet - how about you're more introspective and don't feel the need to speak up all the time, hey you might even be a better listener from being such a quiet person. PLEASE NOTE: this is not to say that any bad habits you have should be excused. Work on bettering and improving yourself for your own good at the very least.

Going forward I am going to be kinder to myself and appreciate me for me. I will also register when I accomplish even the tiniest win, and loud it!

I hope you've learned something from this post. Please go ahead to share this post by email or social media, and leave a comment as well.

2 comments:

  1. I really like the second quote about personality, skills, gifts and talents! I feel good about myself already. - www.jamilakyari.com

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    1. I know, right? Makes you remember how special you are!

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