October 14, 2014

My problem with blogging

Hey guys,

I hope your week has gone off to a good start. Mine's been bleh because only God knows what I ate this weekend that's made my body go haywire :(

Anyways, as usual, I write on the fly and the topic of this post literally just came to me. I follow blogs using Bloglovin (it's a great tool for me to stay updated with my blog roll, and see all the latest posts from blogs that I follow - you can follow me and never miss a post via Bloglovin here). Anyways, here I am on a Monday evening and while I have Bloglovin open in one tab, I have 6 or 8 other blogs open in other tabs. I don't follow any of them on Bloglovin - not because I don't like them, but I feel like I'm already spending sooooooooo much time on blogging. I enjoy reading other blogs, because I get inspiration and learn from them. However, reading blog posts obviously takes more time than writing posts. I'm getting to the point now, that if I don't catch up with my Bloglovin every day, I have to read over 100 posts within a matter of 3 to 4 days.

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Berry Dakara Instagram - Who likes my new glasses?!




But I have to ask myself how many is too many? Lately, I've been saying this phrase over and over to myself: QUALITY OVER QUANTITY. I want to follow blogs that I can learn from, that can make me laugh, that can help me be a better blogger and even a better person. I currently follow over 100 blogs on Bloglovin!!! I think that just as I whittled down my BBM a few years ago (before completely leaving BBM), it's time to declutter. There are some blogs that I follow that I literally even skip over, without reading the posts - so whyyyyyyyyy on earth am I still following them? In addition, there are some other blogs I follow where all the blogger ever wears is designer stuff that I'm either uninterested in, or can't afford (YOU KNOW I'M TRUTHFUL) - so whyyyyy am I following??? I don't want to read or follow people that instill envy vs inspiration, or mindless gossip vs entertainment, etc. It's not necessarily those blogs/writers' faults - in fact, there are people who are inspired by them, so it's mostly a ME thing.

So yeah, this is what I'm thinking. Do you ever feel like you're spending too much time following other blogs? I almost want to ask you to name your Top 5 blogs that you think are top quality, but I'm afraid of adding more blogs to my reading list when I'm trying to declutter :(

#Okbye

I LOVE YOU!

34 comments:

  1. I get you!!!
    I used to follow as many blogs as possible but now I am having to make my choice as to which I actually benefit from and/or enjoy reading..
    Of course, it goes without saying that I love your blog :-) xx

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    1. Thanks lady!

      And yes, it's better to just stay reading things that you enjoy or benefit from. I think I still have more blog-cleaning to do though.

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  2. It is important to declutter from time to time,I left BBM because the noise was too much. I love the internet however most times i take a break.
    My top 5 blogs would be:
    1.www.jeenager.com
    2.www.udookonjo.com
    3.www.sisiyemmie.com
    4.www.marieforleo.com
    5.www.hajelpitan.com

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    1. Taking a break is necessary every now and then, I agree.

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  3. My top 5 blogs are www.KnotsVilla.com (x5). Loooool! But i sure understand, i used feefly and I think the way its arranged it makes me feel less overwhelmed. I arranged mine as Wedding blogs, Christian blogs, Food Blogs and Personal blogs. Not everyday I'm in the mood for weddings so i check out others and that kinda keeps me sane. Times when i need faith encouragement i move to the Christian blogs and see whats new. So its not every time i actually read every post from a blogger. Btw i love your glasses and hair!

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    1. LOOOOL! Of course!

      Mine are arranged as well, but it never occurred to me to read them by category! I think I'll try that in the future.

      Thanks for the compliment - Nazuri in the building :)

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  4. Nice glasses Berry. I usually add blogs to my list when they re recommended by other bloggers. I have added blogs that where uninspiring or boring nd now I knw for a fact that fashion blogs aint ma thing, makeup blogs......... naaaaa, news nd lifestyle... I like. So when a blog falls below espectations.........DELETE!!!!! Tnk you.

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    1. Thank you.

      I like some fashion and beauty blogs, but there's one fashion one in particular that I would roll my eyes at almost all the time (cos I was bored), so I just had to delete it from my list.

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  5. I read this article this morning and it has been on my mind all day. I guess I have been asking myself why I blog and why I read blogs. Well I read your blog because you are my Fairy-blogmother ha! In all seriousness I generally don't follow blogs for follow sake, I follow blogs that I make an emotional connection with and I am loyal. For instance your blog and fola'soasis are in my top blog because in my mind we are friends and we have regular girlsnight and margaritas(in my mind)!

    www.Anemistyle.com

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    1. Hehehe and thank you :)

      I do agree that sometimes there needs to be an emotional connection. Like I really do feel like you (and some other bloggers) are my friends, and we're just catching up and gisting with our blog posts.

      :)

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  6. I loooove the glasses! Could you um, send them to me?

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    1. Thanks! They're closer to you, than I am :p

      America Best Eye Glasses.

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  7. My top blogs in no order of ranking
    1. Awesomelyluvvie.com Shes funny
    2.Berrydakara.blogspot Shes funny
    3.Bellanaija
    4.Linda Ikeji of course
    5.Anderson Coopers 360 blog.

    I check these every single morning. You should take a look and see urself.

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    1. I recently found awesomelyluvvie's techie blog, and I follow that. I didn't know Anderson Cooper had a blog. I'm sure it's very serious - Imma check it out.

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  8. Hi! My second time here. Yes, I do love your glasses. Where can I get a pair like them?

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    1. Thanks! I got them at www.americasbest.com

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  9. It's easy. Unfollow blogs that are not adding anything to you, and blogs that don't interest you, even if they are great. I hardly follow food blogs or fashion blogs

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    1. Hehe, I'm sure you don't follow anything you don't like.

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  10. Yes o - quality over quantity. I find that as time has passed, my interest in certain blogs has waned. for the ones I know I will want to read in the future, I simply mark the content as read and move on.
    The ones that I continuously skip eventually get removed from my blogroll. I have bloglovin but use feedly. It's easy for me to skim the headlines, read what I want and mark everything else as read.

    Also being able to maintain categories keeps things organised.

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    1. You're the second person to mention Feedly... are they better than Bloglovin?

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  11. Hmnnn.. I need to do that too. The amount of blogs I follow ehn...it is only God that would help me. Truly I follow blogs I feel connected too. I love their content and I just feel I connect to the blogger. There are some blogs you visit and you don't just feel welcomed.... I just un-bookmark them (if there's a word like that).

    Www.mylifeasmoby.com

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  12. i like ure blog i visit daily for new posts ,i also like sisyemmie.com ,bellanaija and of cos my blog
    www.largerthanlife.com.ng

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  13. I allow myself the luxury of being choosy. Its like friendship, not everyone can be my friend. Lol. And i find when i start liking blogs, they stop updating. I am guilty of not updating mine regularly too. Sooo.

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    1. Trudat on being choosy. LOL @ they stop updating. I don't like it when blogs I like do that.

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  14. The way I space myself out is that the few blogs I don't wanna miss their content I check them everyday,
    i have some I check every other day,some every three days and some once in a week and some once in a month sef.
    You are the only one I follow on bloglovin though.
    And I have about four on my reading list. Finito.
    All others na randomly oh.

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  15. I follow blogs that either make me thing, laugh, smile, gives me news...or have a light hearted banter like yours.
    Anything that tends to make me depressed, I unfollow quickly.i know it's our blogs and we can be sad sometimes and write such, and ofcourse, one can also comment with an encouraging word...but constant sad writings? I have a problem with letting it seep into me...

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  16. Totally agree. Easy fix. Just unfollow. I have a list of blogs I like and I keep it in my bookmarks (which sync across chrome) when I decide I'm not interested anymore I just delete. I get overwhelmed with Bloglovin and end up following WAY too many people I don't even care about. I also keep a unlisted page on my blog. Here are some of my faves http://riamichelle.com/internet-crew/

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  17. I went through the same exact feeling not too long ago too!
    Resulted in a mass clean of my following list, and now, I only follow style blogs that I can honestly envision myself rocking, and lifestyle posts that enrich my existence. All the other frivolous isn has been tossed...lol

    If you ever feel the need to expand your following list further? Be sure to check out BLEURGH - http://www.bleurghnow.com

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  18. Why Iam i only finding your blog out now?
    www.populairelife.co.uk

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  19. Favorite blog!! Gurrrrl you are reallll
    www.populairelife.co.uk xx

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  20. Oh well! i am not alone on this... Even on instagram/twitter/bbm. Btw, I love your hair.

    www.adezeezee.blogspot.com

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