So I was just browsing the 'net, as usual, and I stumbled across some comments made by male supermodel, Tyson Beckford. About a year ago, Tyson was giving an interview and talked about his girlfriend, Shanina Shaik, and her rising career as a model. This is what he had to say:
‘When I found her she was a regular girl. I helped place her with the right people,
get her teeth cleaned, her body toned up. ‘Everything changed and now everyone
wants a piece of her. I hear people say, "You can do better than Tyson.”
I’m like, “Really? Really?! I created her!”?’
*Ahem* Excuse me? He created her?! What the hell kinda comment is that? And for him to make that comment, means that he believes it to a certain extent.
Okay, I understand that in a lot of relationships, there isn't equal footing. Someone's usually richer, older, more experienced, from a wealthier background, smarter, more spiritual, etc. I think that in a good relationship, the partner who's stronger in certain areas would want to "upgrade" their partner into reaching a higher level. A good partner would want their significant other to be "better;" to be the best woman/man that they can possibly be. Maybe you'd introduce him to a wider network of professionals, in order to boost his career or business. Maybe you'd invite her to church and bible study, and pray with her, in order to help her get closer to God. Maybe you'd take each other shopping to improve wardrobes/styles (OR Kanye West apparently making a lot of style choices for Kim Kardashian these days... and NOT in a good way, IMHO). Maybe you'd take him to nice restaurants, instead of hanging with him at 'nkwobi' joints. Maybe you'd ask her about her life and career goals, in order to get her mind churning to realize her potential. The list is endless...
But when your significant other gets to "that point" (whatever it is), do you take credit for it? Do you go out and tell everyone that you "made" them who they are? Do you take responsibility and make sure your partner never forgets where they came from and where you've brought them to? I think that is just terribly TACKY and ARROGANT! Helping your partner become a "better" version of themselves, isn't bad. Telling the whole world that you made them better, BAD BAD BAD!
Shanina had a great comeback though:
"I did not take his comments seriously. He has always supported me. But he did not make me.
My mother made me." Then through her absolutely perfect smile she said,
"He's in the dog house, but I'll let him out if he's good."
LOL! And now I'll leave you with an aptly titled song/video: Beyonce's Upgrade U
*disclaimer: I wouldn't mind being upgraded to first-class travel and five-star hotels around the world*