October 25, 2016


BERRY WRITES is a weekly feature where I will share my thoughts on different topics culled from my 300 Writing Prompts journal. You can look forward to them every Tuesday, and you're very welcome to tell me your experiences and thoughts as well.

Today's entry called for me to go back in time exactly 10 years and give myself some advice. So here goes:

Dear Twenty-Something Berry,

This is your future self. Things are largely good in life right now. I am writing to give you some advice to heed in the coming years.
  • Going natural does not mean that your hair will automatically be healthy. You need to take good care of it, and have a regimen in place for your hair to thrive. Don't be lazy about it!
  • It's been a couple of years since you started, but Imma need you to take a vow of celibacy going forward. Until you get married! Trust me, I know it feels good in the moment (although you've learned how to "fake it") but ultimately you should just leave sex for marriage as God intended.
  • Take your MBA seriously and stop undermining yourself. Sure, you don't have a business background or as much experience as your classmates, but that just means there's a wealth of information to learn! You have a chance to start over. Make it count! Forge LASTING relationships, as they may help you in the future. I think you should also think about getting work experience, even if it's an unpaid internship or co-op.
  • Your hot body will go away!!!! Rexie was right! 25 is when your metabolism starts slowing down. Stop eating any how and start exercising immediately. Drop that burger right now!
  • Above all, I need you to realize something - YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU ARE ENOUGH! Heck, even more than enough! You have a lot of great characteristics that you should be proud of. Stop with the low self-esteem. Work on you and be proud of who you are. See yourself as God sees you. 
I love you. 

What advice would you give to yourself from 10 years ago?

P.S. I've updated last week's entry with the ending of my sad love story!!!!


  1. Let's see. 10 years ago, I'll have been 17 going on 18, and 2nd year of Uni... May be just learn the life skills I talked about in the post below. Is it weird that i can't think of anything else. Guess my 10 year ago self was pretty good. No surprises.

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    Dear Younger Self: I Wish You'd Learn These Life Skills Everyone Knows

  2. I love this! I needed some of this wisdom today. Loving ourselves the way God loves us goes beyond basic self love, it's so much more. Exercise though, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak, but I'm trying though

    Women who defied the other room

  3. To my younger self 10years ago:
    Love your mum and stop hating on her, she means well you know!
    Quit with the complaining about your uneven skin tone..it doesn't matter.
    Keep your head in your books and don't hate yourself for being an introvert.
    Hi Berry, the common thing we will find is the issue of low self esteem...i need to wake up and support the younger ones, help them stay sound and strong before they'll die of low self-esteem.lol
    The Beautiful Eagle

  4. Wished I learn more about taking risks ten years ago.. Whether I succeed or not, that's why it is called risks..

    I love this post and I wish you could see ways to spread this particular post on more social medias so lots of young ladies would read and think about themselves and their lives.

    This is educative..



  6. Advise to my younger self, life is not what it seems;always read between the lines. People change and most importantly YOU will change also. Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary situation. Most importantly figure out your purpose and trust God; He's got you.


  7. 10 years ago I wished I learnt alot more on forgiveness amongst other things...

    A Little Extra Wont Hurt

  8. I love how vulnerable you are in this piece.
    Going natural doesn't automatically make your hair healthy. Preach!
    "Drop that burger now" will probably haunt me the next time I pick a burger.
    Off to read the end of that love story.


  9. dear Ada_ugo,
    1)You will look at your pictures and wonder at your dress sense. Not to worry, you will still understand where you were coming from, and a tiny part of you can still justify exactly why those shoes went with that skirt. But still, you will look back at your pictures and not be embarrassed, nah, far from it - just confused. And you will understand why that girl asked you that day where you do your shopping. lol
    2)If it's any comfort to you, you really aren't going to change much personality-wise.
    3) You think you know what you want to do with your life? LOL, wait till you see what you're doing now :)... I bet you never hesperred it ;)

  10. Berry I really enjoyed reading this, it was funny in parts and real and honest in other parts. A nice mix and an awesome read!



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