January 31, 2017

Eating Your Meat First, Last or During Your Meal

As I write this, today is January 25th. It is 9:13pm. I am catching up on blogs via Bloglovin (follow me here, let me know and I'll follow back), while watching The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills - that's one of my guilty pleasures. Anyways, Cakes is chowing down on a plate of pounded yam with okro soup that he made earlier today - (yes, yes, lucky girl, cooking husband, uh huh, praise God).

January 26, 2017

30 and Unmarried - Part 2

As I was saying in my previous post, my family members were very worried about me because I was quickly approaching 30, unmarried, and didn't seem to care. And truthfully, I really didn't care that much. I knew I would get married eventually, but I wasn't on a timetable. Yeah, it probably helped that there were different guys along the way, so I was preoccupied anyways *hides face.* But the bottom line is that I wasn't sitting somewhere, wallowing and waiting for my life to start, because I did have a life!

January 25, 2017

30 and Unmarried - Part 1

I got the idea of this post from a tweet that Sugabelly posted last week.

Being a Nigerian/African woman typically means that by the time you're done with your first degree, family members are eagerly awaiting your wedding announcement. You're probably between 23 and 25 years old at the time, and woe betide you if there's no eligible suitor hanging around.

January 23, 2017

So In Love With JORD!

About 3 years ago, I put up a post on the 5 Love Languages. Cakes and I, in preparation for our upcoming marriage, took the assessment separately. The first time I took the assessment (4 years ago), my primary love language was Physical Touch, with Quality Time and Receiving Gifts close behind. Since then, I've taken the assessment twice, and both times, Receiving Gifts has been my primary love language, with Quality Time and Physical Touch tied in second place. When I really think about it, I particularly enjoy when Cakes gives me well thought-out gifts, and spends time with me, even if we're just lying in bed, legs intertwined and doing nothing in particular.
jord, wood watch, valentine's day gifts, men's watch, women's watch

January 19, 2017

BERRY VLOG: Turning Failure Into Success


This chit-chat video is actually repurposed from this post. Sometimes, you're able to communicate a little more clearly when you speak, so I thought I would give it a go. If you know someone who's struggling with failure, or just can't seem to get their head above water, I really think this vlog will help, so please share it.

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January 16, 2017

What do YOU think about Plastic Surgery?

Last weekend I was watching one of my favorite vloggers on Youtube. Patricia Bright made a video talking about the different cosmetic procedures she's had done over the years. They range from getting breast augmentation to fixing her teeth and more.

It's a pretty long video, but in summary I appreciated the way she approached the subject. She knows that not everyone will agree with her choices, but they were HER choices to make. She had people send in questions, which she answered and I didn't think to ask a question until I was watching the video. My question revolves around Christianity and plastic surgery.

January 12, 2017

BERRY VLOG: 3 Things I'm Leaving in 2016


In addition to being back to blogging, I'm back on Youtube too! In this chit-chat vlog, I shared 3 things I am leaving behind in 2016.

January 11, 2017

What I Did During My Break

So y'all know I chose to take a blogging break in December because I was feeling overwhelmed with life, and it was sucking the joy out of blogging. I was worrying too much about a bunch of things and I just needed some time to breathe.

Anyways, let me catch you up on a few things I did during the break.

January 9, 2017

Snowy Day Photo Walk

If you follow me on Instagram and Snapchat (@Berrydakara), then you know that it snowed in Atlanta this weekend. Having lived in Boston for a long time, it always tickles me the way Atlantans react to snow. Just a few inches of snow causes a state of emergency, a frenzy everywhere, and basically everything shuts down. It's understandable because they're not used to snow, as it comes maybe once a year. Plus the biggest issue is black ice! When the snow starts to melt, if the temperature is below freezing, it turns into a layer of ice on the roads that can cause accidents. My brother actually got into a fender bender on Saturday night on a bridge over a major highway, but we thank God he got home safely.

January 4, 2017

2016 Recap: My Word of the Year and Why I Failed

I wasn't too sure about doing any recaps of 2016, because towards the end of the year, I got it into my head that 2016 was the worst year ever. I don't know when I got into that train of thought, but it appears that was a sentiment echoed over and over on social media. I may have genuinely felt that 2016 was yucky, but I now know that I allowed social media to add to my "gloom and doom" feeling.

I'm refusing henceforth to let negativity influence my life, so you might be wondering why my post for today is about a failure I experienced in 2016. Well, here's the truth about failure - it's not so bad IF you realize what your shortcomings were and LEARN from the experience.

January 1, 2017

Happy New Year!!!


I'm just popping in to wish you all a wonderful 2017! At the start of the year there's always a fresh feeling of renewal and hope.