May 15, 2017

What I would Have Done Differently for my Wedding

It's been almost 3.5 years since we got married in our beautiful Lagosian Beach Wedding. As much as I loved it, and was on such a high for a while, there are some things that I would change if I had to go back to that time.




  1. I would have invited a smidge more people. We wanted to have a maximum of 200 people at the wedding, and I think we had just around that number. But in my quest for crowd control, there are some friends that in retrospect, I regret not extending an invitation to (mistakenly and purposely). Additionally, I would have made more of an effort to invite some of the friends in the States and other countries. I just didn't want anyone to have to spend exorbitant amounts of money just because Berry was getting married. But that should have been their decision, not mine.

  2. I would have tested the Chinese lanterns I ordered, and done a little more research beforehand about weather conditions. I had this very nice vision for the latter part of the wedding reception. Have you seen the Disney movie, Tangled? If you have, then you know the lanterns that were lit every year for Rapunzel's birthday. I was instantly enchanted and had the bright idea to have them for guests to light and let loose by the beach side once it got dark (I did worry a little bit what the nearby villagers would have thought once they saw 50 floating lights randomly in the sky). Anyways, the night before the wedding, we tried to light a couple to see how it would look - NOTHING! I don't know if I ordered poor quality ones because they ripped pretty easily, and I also think the ocean breeze didn't help in keeping the matches lit. At the end of the day, we still had fun at the wedding, but I really wish this part of the plans didn't fall through.

  3. SMALL CHOPS! All I wanted to eat at my wedding reception was small chops. Nope, I wasn't very interested in the food being served. All I wanted was the small chops. And I got the small chops once Cakes and I danced to our chairs... and excitement made me forget I had small chops next to me. By the time I realized I hadn't eaten, my plate was GONE!!! I think it's probably my biggest regret of the day.

  4. I would have used a different makeup artist. I think I've told the story about how the makeup artist I chose showed up to the venue between 2 and 2:30pm. This was for a wedding scheduled to start at 3:00pm. I had a bad feeling about her, to be honest, because after a test run a few weeks prior, my face broke out in rashes and I was all itchy - she told me she hadn't washed her brushes beforehand :-| But on the wedding day itself, we waited and waited for her to show up and eventually, I just started putting my makeup on myself. By the time Madam MUA landed, I was so angry I refused to speak to her. Because she came so late, I didn't get to take proper portrait shots :(
  5. I might have been less relaxed about the program... or lack thereof. Cakes's friend (the one I introduced to my friend from this post) offered to do the design and printing for us. Maybe in the back of my mind, because we weren't paying for it, I didn't have a sense of urgency. As a matter of fact, I think I kinda left it to Cakes to figure out. But by the week of our wedding, we still hadn't finalized everything and we hurriedly rushed through it and submitted to our friend. Well, that being Christmas week too, the printers were unable to deliver them on time. I heard they actually tried to deliver the programs at 6pm, while the reception was already underway. But of course, at that time, we had already decided to wing it and were having too much fun to notice.
At the end of the day, we did have a lot of fun, and barely noticed if anything was amiss. That's the thing about weddings - you make all this fuss beforehand and when the day comes, you're too happy and excited to notice a lot of the things you might have been a bridezilla about. 

If you're married, did your wedding go exactly as you wanted or would you have changed anything? My cousin in England was at a wedding yesterday and she said some guy knocked the wedding cake over!!! Eeeeeeeek! 

11 comments:

  1. I would love to have a beach wedding in Nigeria. I love the photos from yours!

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    1. Thank you. And you totally can! So many people thought it was impossible for whatever reason. Obviously it isn't.

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  2. Omg! Someone knocked the cake over! Geez. Lol. I've already blogged about some things that didn't go the way we wanted. And girl, that small chops thing still makes me sad till today, even though we got a whole tray to ourselves the day after. I thought your makeup looked good. Xx

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    1. I froze when my cousin said the cake fell!!!

      I think missing small chops, whether it's your wedding or not, is always a tragedy :p

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  3. Hi Berry,

    Hows our baby in the oven? Best wishes at this time.
    There are so many things I would have changed at my wedding and presently, I am putting a series of posts together to discuss things I would have done differently. For starters, Myself and my husband didnt eat a thing, imagine!!! no one remembered to keep food for us on our wedding day. By evening, when we were ready to eat, everything was finished

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    1. Whaaaaaaaaat?!?!?!?! How on earth did they forget you guys?!?!?

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    2. yeah, same happened to me too

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  4. Wawu. A whole wedding cake, that's a deep one.

    Tuke's Quest

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  5. Awwww I remember seeing your wedding pictures on Bella Naija. It was quite a breath of fresh air! You both were so lucky your families​ allowed you have your wedding the way you wanted it! I miss small chops!

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    1. Hehe I personally think it was a combination of luck, desperation on my parents part and determination on mine.

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