I was perusing the new posts on my blog lists, via Bloglovin' and came upon a review of Chimamandah Adichie's 'AMERICANAH.' BTW, I have to put it on my list of books to read ASAP! I'm way behind on my reading.
Anyways, in the review, Ms. Taynement posted a couple of lines from the book, that stood out to her. One of them stood out to me...
This is deep to me. Deep and sad. Deep and sad, but true. I've said many times that marriage for a lot of men, is a function of time. While it matters who they get married to (after all, there has to be some compatibility or attraction, however minuscule), TIME is a big factor. I've heard too many stories of guys who were in long-term or deeply passionate relationships, that eventually fell flat, simply because the men weren't ready to get married. And then 6 months later, wedding bells a-ringing!
A friend of mine is getting married next month. But it's not to the woman he really wants. Okay, the woman he wants isn't available anyways. But he said it was just time for him to get married, and since his intended was available and ready, he went ahead and proposed. He had the ring already. If the woman he wants was available, he would have given her the ring instead. You can see a twinge of sadness in his eyes. But I can't blame him for going through with the wedding, since the one he wants isn't available to him. :(
I think the same thing happens with women, but on a much smaller scale. I feel like any woman who married because it was time, would have an underlying sadness throughout her life. Men are better equipped to handle stuff like this.
What do you think? Do you agree that a lot of people give up TRUE LOVE, because the TIMING is wrong?