May 30, 2023

Happy Birthday to Me!

There's really no way I can still try to claim 30's anymore. I am now firmly in the 40+ box. When I fill out forms and get to the demographics section, it's the 40-45 or 40-49 boxes I put a tick mark in. It almost seems weird to me. Just yesterday I was talking to an old friend and he mentioned that his son will be heading to college in the next 5 years. What's crazy is I've known him for a long time, way before he had kids... we remember US being in college, and now we're talking about our children heading to college? How time flies. 

There's a part of me that wants to say I don't feel 41. That I feel like I'm 29. But I know for sure, my 29 year-old body did NOT feel like my current body. Is some of it due to weight and not enough exercise? I'm sure of it. But still. I have random aches and pains, and as much as I can still "go down low" on the dance floor, there are creaks and cracks when I stretch this way or that. 

I feel a type of way about being 40+. There's the general conception that when a woman turns 40, she's old[er]. And yes, she is. But it's not a bad thing. I think that as a woman gets older (and hopefully wiser), she understands herself better. She has (or should have) a good handle on what she does or doesn't like or want in her life. It's easier said than done, but there's a bit more self-awareness I think. Certainly it doesn't mean every single 40+ woman has that knowledge, or that women younger than 40 don't. 

Anyway, I turned 41 yesterday. I'm thankful to God for bringing me this far and utterly grateful for my loved ones. 🙏🏾


  1. OmG! You are still as beautiful as ever! Please post more often, some of us are fans forever. Happy belated birthday!

  2. Happy birthday dear Berry! I didn't know you were a May baby :-)
    I also clocked 40 this May, it's amazing how time flies. I wish you the very best and great success and joy in this new year. Stay blessed.

  3. You look beautiful and very radiant by the way! Enjoy :)

  4. Belated birthday greetings Berry dear. I have similar notions about turning 41 too,lol


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