October 6, 2022

On Moving On

Hello again,

In the past couple of years, well-meaning friends and family members have told me to "move on." Most of the time when they say I need to move on, they mean I need to get into a new relationship or get remarried.

I think it's a fair assumption to say that the majority of Nigerians would most likely mean exactly that. However I've had to ask them in response why being in another relationship is the main definition of moving on. 

In my mind, moving on means going past the bad emotions from my divorce and living my life. It means that I'm not stuck or paralyzed by my former/past situation and that I'm actively be-ing in the present. I'm not waiting for a knight in shining armor to come rescue me from my new singlehood or pausing experiences to wait for a new man. In the past few years, I've been progressing at work by God's grace, giving Coco a pretty decent childhood, traveling when I can, enjoying my family and friends, bought a house, etc. I certainly don't feel like my life is stagnant and that I'm waiting for a new man to come along before I enjoy myself. 

Yes, for sure I'd like to find love again but I'm not pausing my life until then. Heck I'm half comfortable with the possibility of never marrying again... (LOL, I know for sure some people just squealed "Ewo! God forbid! Chineke me!" at the thought). What I mean is, I would like to get married again at some point BUT it won't be the end of the world if it doesn't happen. I'm kinda open to wherever [love] life takes me. As it is right now dating isn't even my priority so whatever innit?

So, the next time anyone wants to ask when I'll move on, please know that I have indeed moved on, with myself. 😉

Thanks for reading! 

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