I Took A Divorce Class!

Hi again!

I thought I had shared about Divorce Care on the blog before, but it turns out that I had it in mind, but never actually wrote about my experience. I'm guessing you're probably wondering why I went through the program in the first place. I became officially divorced in January 2022. The marriage had been in disintegration mode for maybe 5 years before then. While I felt that I had moved on emotionally, mentally and legally, I still felt that I wanted to be sure I was COMPLETELY DONE and had covered all bases. Additionally, I knew that before I ventured into dating again, I wanted to be sure that I had done the inner work and healed, and not take any metaphorical baggage into a new relationship. I had heard about DivorceCare from someone at my church and knew that I would like to go through the program eventually. Well, eventually came later in 2022 and I found a church in the vicinity with a time that worked for me. 

On Glorifying Divorce

 This is not a disclaimer but I feel the need to preface this post by saying that I'm not an advocate for divorce. As in, if someone tells me they are having issues in their marriage, my first thought isn't "Y'all should probably get divorced." Unless there's a case of abuse, I would advise the couple to try and work things out - pray, go to therapy, talk to their mentors if they have, etc - especially if they have offspring. I hope you understand my position. That being said...

Getting to Know Berry Dakara

Hey y'all!

How are ya? I hope you're doing fine and dandy. 

I'm here today to tell you about my recent guest features on 2 podcasts (and a bonus one). I haven't been regular with blogging, but I have been pretty consistent in the podcasting space. My podcast, Mommy Oyoyo is gaining traction and if you haven't yet listened to an episode, I'd say you should check out the very first one to hear why I started the podcast. BUT for the purpose of getting to know Berry 2.0 a little better, I'd like to share these podcast episodes I featured on below :). You can listen while exercising, cleaning, working, relaxing, watching the kids, cooking, fixing the car, running general errands - the list is endless!

1. SEX DURING/AFTER DIVORCE featuring Berry Dakara on the I AM AFRICAN PODCAST hosted by Verastic

Vera and I are just two mad women who stay laughing and making jokes about everything! The feedback I've received from people who have listened range from, "OMG Berry, you and Vera are hilarious!" to "I've just been laughing since I started listening," to "It was very inspiring to hear 2 Nigerian women speak so openly about divorce, and in a light-hearted manner." So, I implore you to listen if you'd like to be entertained by both of us as we share our thoughts on sex during and after divorce.

2. FREEDOM TO COME HOME featuring Berry Dakara on the SHE SPEAKS BOUGIE PODCAST hosted by Tennielle Clark

I met Tennielle at this event in 2016 and we bonded instantly that day. Over the years, even though she moved to a different state, we have kept up with each other via texts and Instagram. She has a wonderful podcast that aims to celebrate black women. I was pleased when she reached out to me to feature on her podcast and talk about the freedom to be an adult while still living in my parents' house. I was pretty open (what else is new) and covered motherhood, divorce, my relationship with my parents and finding myself again as a woman, as the Berry you all know and hopefully love.

3. SINGLE MOM LIFE featuring Berry Dakara on the MOMMY OYOYO PODCAST hosted by ME!

I wasn't quite sure about adding this link/episode to this blog post, but hey, why not? In the latest episode of the podcast (which is close to 10,000 listens), I shared what being a single mother has been like for me so far. I know not everyone will be happy about some of the things I say, but as I mentioned in the episode, it's not my intent to make anyone look bad - I just stated the situation as it's been.

If you listen to any of these episodes, please let me know. I'm open to hearing feedback (positive and constructive) from you. 

Have a great weekend!