Weekend Snaps

Hey hey! I hope you had a pretty weekend. Mine was alright. I ate, worked out, ate some more (I made a plantain and potato hash and loved it waaaaay too much. I think Cakes liked it too).

I spent a good part of Saturday with Cakes, watching him at work. I'll just share a few pics...

Cakes made this, YES HE DID! How'd you like the dove?

He's working, I'm snapping!

I found this picture on my phone. This was the day I first thought that Cakes and I could definitely be in a relationship.

Facebook Page, Yes or No?

I've been toying with the idea of a Facebook page for my blog. I see other bloggers that have pages, but they have like a gazillion followers, whereas I don't. Plus I feel like that would be crossing over into TOO MUCH! There's the blog, there's Twitter, there's Instagram, and now Facebook? I think it might increase visibility for the blog, but I just don't know if I need one. What do you think?

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First Kiss Fridays is baaaaaaaaaack!!!

Hello lovers!!!

Sorry for the break in transmission. I mistakenly thought we didn't have any stories to share last week, when I hadn't even checked my Spam folder. I checked, and sure enough, we've got stories to shaaaaare! Thank you to the contributors! You are BEAUTIFUL, in every single waaaaaaaaaaay, words can't bring... Oops, sorry. I thought I was Berry Aguilera for a second.

Anyways, as usual, send stories of your first kisses ever, first kisses with boyfriends/girlfriends, ex-boyfriends/girlfriends, handsome/beautiful strangers, husbands/wives, etc... It will be TOTALLY ANONYMOUS!

Please send your stories to berrydakara@gmail.com

Hi Berry! I still remember my very first kiss, but this isn't about that. This is about my most memorable first kiss. Let's call him X.

I met X just after my final exams in university. I hadn't connected with anyone like that in a while but it was such a frustrating thing at the time because we had been in the same school for all of my years there, but had never even spoken to each other. I always acknowledged his gorgeousness but I didn't know I was really into him until we were properly introduced.

So, we started being friends- talking & texting, but I held back because I was already leaving and there was no point starting anything. Then several weeks later, I had to come back to the city for something, and we hung out a few times. The tension just kept piling up. Until one night, at a pub with X and a few friends, maybe it was the alcohol (I wasn't drunk though), but everything just started making sense in only one direction- DO IT! This was also the year Y.O.L.O was a thing. So maybe I owe Drake a 'Thank You.'

After a few very potent cocktails, I think it had become fairly obvious what we had to do- so without a word, we left the pub for his car in the dark parking lot. I remember leaning on him in silence for like a moment, maybe there was some talking... I can't remember when we made the transition but all of a sudden, it wasn't one kiss, more like a hundred. It felt like one big, hot, steamy explosive everywhere moment- long enough for our friends to come looking for us.The chemistry was amazing and I was glad all the tension and anticipation weren't wasted.

Anyhooo. Life had to happen and we are presently living life in our different locations, but we still keep in touch.

*Oooooh, LAWDY! Somebody gimme a fan. It just got HAWT up in HERE! Ice cold water please! No, a milkshake! No ice cream! Actually, just put me in a bucket of ice! :p

I felt like I was watching a movie, just reading and playing that in my head. You know how you've liked someone for sooooo long, and nothing happens, and then one day it all comes together and BOOM! *whew*

Thanks for this story. I really enjoyed reading it and hope others will too! To everyone else, if you're in a relationship or married, grab your honey today and give him/her a BIG BIG, passionate, toe-curling kiss! Have a wonderful weekend :)

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Confession...

Yo yo!

Can I just say that I needed this 2-day holiday that just passed?! It was soooooo necessary for life! I have to say though, that seeing ram heads all over the place kinda freaked me out. I was driving in my neighborhood and at one house, they had just cut off the ram's head and you could see the blood and everything. BLECH! I'v never celebrated Sallah. I've never had muslim friends, so I don't get the whole "Sallah meat" frenzy. I'm not saying it to be snarky or snooty. I'd say the same thing about Chinese New Year or Hanukkah. I actually asked my friend if Sallah celebration is like Christmas. Anyway, I know you're wondering what my confession is, so let me stop rambling.

The following conversation occurred at church one day...

Usher: Hey Berry.
Me: Oh hey, how are you?
Usher: You know people say you're a snob, right?
Me: ENH? *confused and totally surprised*
Usher: Yeah, I've heard on more than one occasion that you're a snob and you don't talk to people.
Me: *frantically scanning my memory to find out if I'd been rude to anyone or blanked someone*
Usher: I just thought you should know
Me: Well, okay. #1. You don't just say stuff like that out of the blue. #2. Who are these people? #3. If you must know, and you can feel free to share the information with said people, I'm innately a VERY SHY person. If you came to my secondary school to look for me, the way I was described was "the dark, skinny, quiet girl." So please, the next time someone feels the need to tell you that I'm a snob, tell them that I'm shy, quiet and reserved when I don't know someone well enough.

I won't even lie, his comment made me feel very hurt. I felt like people were judging me without knowing who I am. I complained to Cakes, and he said one or two people had said the same thing to him. That they've tried to reach out and be my friend, but that I have a wall up and don't let people in (true to some extent).

Here's the thing. I'm generally friendly. I will smile and laugh with almost anyone. At the same time, I can be very very shy. It takes a lot of effort for me to go and start a conversation with a stranger. Chances are that I would think about it in my head for 30+ minutes before saying hello. In addition, I feel like at my age, most females already have their established friendships and it's harder to break into a circle of friends. It's one thing if you already have something in common and have been acquaintances for a while. It's another thing to automatically become friends with someone, if you haven't had a substantial conversation to find out if you have anything in common. (I want to break off and talk about female vs male friends but that's a loooooooong topic, so I'll address it another time)

In summary, yes, I confess to having a wall up. BUT it doesn't take too much to push through the wall. You don't even need to push, actually. You can huff, puff, and blow the wall down with a simple 5-minute conversation. I, obviously though, have to do more to NOT have a seemingly snobby attitude.

Conclusion: If you're in the same church as I am, and you feel that I snubbed you at any point in time, SAWRRRYYYYYYYYYY O! I didn't mean to. Chances are that I was hungry and you didn't have a snack to feed me :p

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Holiday Snaps

Hello ladies and gentlemen,

*this post draft has been lingering for over a month, and for that, I apologize.*

So last month I told y'all about how I wept over the apparent "loss" of my engagement ring. Again, Thank Youuuuu for sympathizing with me (smiles) and Booooooo for laughing at me (sticks tongue out, while frowning). Anyways, just thought to share the highlights of my much needed vacay with all y'all. I know I've said "y'all" twice already, but being home in Atlanta does that to me. Okay, moving on...

I got to Atlanta bright and early... too early, as the airport wasn't even open yet, and we had to wait for 30 mins before we could disembark. We eventually did, and it was off to hug my parents, sister/her hubby and the most adorable nephew in the whole entire universe!!! My family's camera-shy so no pics of them on here.

HIGHLIGHT 1 - Wedding Dress Shopping!!!!!!!!!!! The 'rents, sister and I found my dress at the first store we visited. But just to be sure, and because we had another appointment, we checked out another store. They also had a really nice dress, but at the end of the day, I could have only one and I selected the one everyone liked the most. Nope, I'm not sharing details or pictures. My friend's convinced I got a pink or black dress, because she thinks I'm very random! But then again, I could shock her and wear a white dress. All will be revealed AFTER the wedding :D