I was going to post pictures from the wedding, but they're all mostly on Bella Naija, Knotsvilla, and Photos by Demi already, so no need. I think for our first year anniversary, I'll do a post on my favorite pictures and moments from the different wedding ceremonies. So, since I'm not posting what I originally planned, I'll take a cue from Anonymous' suggestion on what kinda posts you'd like to see from me.
Anonymous wanted to know how I fell in love with Cakes, not how we met. You already know how we met (in church on a Wednesday evening service). So here goes...
When I met him, there was an instant attraction. I thought he was cute and really nice - in fact, I told my sister the week after we met that I wanted to marry the cake guy! However, there was someone else in my life. We weren't dating but we'd been friends for a very long time and I had fallen very hard for him. I thought HE and I would eventually get together and that would be the end of the story. Cakes knew that I had a "friend," but he still liked me anyways and we continued building our friendship. About 2 or 3 months after I met Cakes (June/July), my "friend" broke my heart - he had met someone else. To say that I was devastated is the understatement of LIFE! At that point, I closed my heart to love. Cakes was there beside me, yes, but I pushed him away. I could see that he wanted to be with me, but I wasn't ready to love again. I wasn't sure if I even wanted to love again. I had gotten my heart broken twice in a row, and I couldn't deal with the possibility of another one.
By September, my youth service was about to end, and I toyed with going back to Atlanta for good. One thing I was sure about was that I would not be THAT GIRL that stayed in Nigeria because she met someone - PUHLEESE! I talked it over with family and friends, but the choice was ultimately up to me. I decided to dedicate a period of time to fasting and praying about the decision. Within a short time, I knew that I'd stay back here and forgo my old job in Atlanta. Cakes, of course was happy about it, but I was still iffy. I still just wasn't ready to give my heart away again, even though Cakes ticked most of my boxes. He had to deal with attitude, indecision, pushing away, bouts of crying, and more, and yet he still stood by - breaking down my walls little by little.
I even had dreams about whether or not to accept Cakes as a love interest. One dream I remember vividly... I was in PH in my dad's house and one night, I had a dream that I was in a train station. I was sitting by and a train was getting ready to leave. Yet, I still sat down wondering whether to get on it or not. Slowly the train started moving, and I still sat by, watching it leave. When it picked up speed and left the station, in the dream I started panicking because I realized that I actually wanted to be on that train, and broke down in tears (see, I even cry in my dreams). I woke up immediately, and in my heart, I knew that the train was a symbol for Cakes, and if I didn't make my decision about him soon, he'd leave and I'd regret it. Sooooooooooooooo I agreed to be his girlfriend.
The thing about Cakes is his heart. He's incredibly kind, he's generous (sometimes to our detriment), he's patient (I don't know how many guys would be patient enough to deal with my dramatics), and so much more. He's not perfect - far from it - but he's perfect for me.
FLAWS AND ALL
I don't know why you love meeeeeeeeee
And that's why I love youuuuuuuuuuuu
You catch me when I fall
Accept me flaws and all
And that's why I looove youuuuuu
BERRY AND CAKES 6-MONTHS ANNIVERSARY (a short montage)