June 27, 2014

Berry and Cakes: 6 Months Anniversary

Woot woot! It's mine and Cakes' 6 month white wedding anniversary!!!!!! Technically, officially, we got married on the 12th of December, but we decided to mark our anniversary on the white wedding date (27th). So HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was going to post pictures from the wedding, but they're all mostly on Bella Naija, Knotsvilla, and Photos by Demi already, so no need. I think for our first year anniversary, I'll do a post on my favorite pictures and moments from the different wedding ceremonies. So, since I'm not posting what I originally planned, I'll take a cue from Anonymous' suggestion on what kinda posts you'd like to see from me.

Anonymous wanted to know how I fell in love with Cakes, not how we met. You already know how we met (in church on a Wednesday evening service). So here goes...

When I met him, there was an instant attraction. I thought he was cute and really nice - in fact, I told my sister the week after we met that I wanted to marry the cake guy! However, there was someone else in my life. We weren't dating but we'd been friends for a very long time and I had fallen very hard for him. I thought HE and I would eventually get together and that would be the end of the story. Cakes knew that I had a "friend," but he still liked me anyways and we continued building our friendship. About 2 or 3 months after I met Cakes (June/July), my "friend" broke my heart - he had met someone else. To say that I was devastated is the understatement of LIFE! At that point, I closed my heart to love. Cakes was there beside me, yes, but I pushed him away. I could see that he wanted to be with me, but I wasn't ready to love again. I wasn't sure if I even wanted to love again. I had gotten my heart broken twice in a row, and I couldn't deal with the possibility of another one.

By September, my youth service was about to end, and I toyed with going back to Atlanta for good. One thing I was sure about was that I would not be THAT GIRL that stayed in Nigeria because she met someone - PUHLEESE! I talked it over with family and friends, but the choice was ultimately up to me. I decided to dedicate a period of time to fasting and praying about the decision. Within a short time, I knew that I'd stay back here and forgo my old job in Atlanta. Cakes, of course was happy about it, but I was still iffy. I still just wasn't ready to give my heart away again, even though Cakes ticked most of my boxes. He had to deal with attitude, indecision, pushing away, bouts of crying, and more, and yet he still stood by - breaking down my walls little by little.

TRIVIA: This was the first day I thought "Cakes could definitely be boyfriend material." We had taken a road trip with his cousin to Abeokuta to drop off a cake for his friend's wedding. I can't remember the date though. And no, even though I thought he could be my future partner, I still wasn't ready to say yes. 

I even had dreams about whether or not to accept Cakes as a love interest. One dream I remember vividly... I was in PH in my dad's house and one night, I had a dream that I was in a train station. I was sitting by and a train was getting ready to leave. Yet, I still sat down wondering whether to get on it or not. Slowly the train started moving, and I still sat by, watching it leave. When it picked up speed and left the station, in the dream I started panicking because I realized that I actually wanted to be on that train, and broke down in tears (see, I even cry in my dreams). I woke up immediately, and in my heart, I knew that the train was a symbol for Cakes, and if I didn't make my decision about him soon, he'd leave and I'd regret it. Sooooooooooooooo I agreed to be his girlfriend.

The thing about Cakes is his heart. He's incredibly kind, he's generous (sometimes to our detriment), he's patient (I don't know how many guys would be patient enough to deal with my dramatics), and so much more. He's not perfect - far from it - but he's perfect for me.

I don't know why you love meeeeeeeeee
And that's why I love youuuuuuuuuuuu
You catch me when I fall
Accept me flaws and all
And that's why I looove youuuuuu

P.S. I'm still quite sick. Ah!nu, I like chicken pepper soup.

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  1. awww,Happy Anniversary Berry and Cakes.
    Your love story is Beautiful.....
    Finding the right one makes life easier......
    The Beautiful Eagle

  2. *sighs* I love your love story.... I want to read more beautiful things about you. Sometimes I wonder of people actually fall in love this way. You guys give me hope no jokes. Happy Anniversary!

    1. Thank you very much. People fall in love in a million ways and one!

  3. Awww! Sweet love story.

    Oh and yeah you can write faith posts.


  4. Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!! *sniff sniff*.. What a beautiful story! Happy Anniversary to you both and many more love stories withing your love story in Jesus name xx

  5. Yay!berry listened to me about what I wanted her to talk about.I am so happy.
    I admit to being really curious about your side of the story.From what I have read I know he was really keen but I always wondered what the progression was for you.you know!From admirer,to friends,dating and being engaged.How you fell in love and what made you finally agree.
    I am glad I know the story now!Beautiful story too.Hugs and kisses.Thanks.

  6. Happy Anniversary!!
    Your story, your stories, genuinely make me "awwwwww" <3
    May God keep you guys in good health, and in love with one another!

  7. Awwww, so sweet. Love how he stood by you through it all.

    Happy anniversary to you both!

  8. I love your story! Happy Anniversary to you and Cakes, Berry!!!

  9. Aww,happy anniversary Berry. You guys look so great together.

  10. Happy six months anniversary Berry. May the good continue to outweigh the bad in your relationship. I have my thoughts on love, but I do love to see people who are utterly in love.

  11. Happy anniversary Berry and Cakes. May the love you both share continue to grow in Jesus name!

  12. Congrats berry and thanks for posting this...

  13. I love your story. Really wants to make me cry. Saw you both together today and I think u are perfect for each other. Would be doing a post about our short meeting on my blog on monday. You should check it out


  14. I Love how down-to-earth you are berry

  15. 'He is not perfect. ....but he is perfect for me'. I want this, this thing called love too. Happy .5 year anniversary :D

  16. Happy anniversary Berry and Cakes! Your love story is beautiful, so touching, your wedding ceremony was lovely too. I still remember that photo of Cakes writing you a note on the morning of your wedding, and you crying while reading the note that was special. May God continue to shower you with his blessings

  17. Obviously, Cakes had been doing some MFM prayer stuffs, lol. Every man that won't allow Berry see me, Holy Ghost...

  18. Happy wedding anniversary my darling. xxx

  19. Congrats dear, and get well soon

  20. THANKS EVERYBODY!!! I promise, I'll get to all your comments soon!

  21. Awwwwww....You both are so cute together. God bless your marriage!

  22. Who can resist such a sweet story? Not I! I loved learning more about your journey to Mr. & Mrs.! Happy 6 month wedding anniversary—wishing you both many, many more happy years together!

  23. Awwww.. *sniff sniff*.. so lovely.. This is stuff made for movies.. I never knew people still fell in love this way and have stories like this. Almost everyone I know just gets married because it's time. No courtship, no falling in love, no friendship, nothing. I've been told I'll end up old and alone and I've watched too many romantic movies but, rather be alone and happy than with someone and miserable. Anyway *confetti* Happy 6monthaversary to berry and Cakes!!! May it continue to get better..


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